A question for all the men out there

Oh it makes perfect sense to me hon! It's a good description of what it was like for me.

I don't mean to be crass or dismissive. I am a single, 50 yr old woman. I am only talking about my own personal feelings. I am unmarried and would not get into an exclusive relationship or marriage to someone without sex.

I am sorry for your history of abuse and to anyone else who was abused.

I just read some of your earlier posts. I hope your therapist is helpful with this issue. Maybe you could talk to them with your husband present?

Have you considered BPD?

I don't have anything to offer for advice, but I am glad you posted this. I'm a 49 year old male, and I feel exactly the same. Everything functions, but I feel disconnected. I'm not in a relationship, so there is no issue like you are facing, but it feels so weird. I think I am sexually frustrated a lot, and that might be the source of some of my depression and fatigue, but I'm just not very interested in sex now. I can still do it, and I enjoy it in a way, but it no longer seems worth the hassle.

I wish there was a sub-forum for aging issues like this. I think this whole thing of getting old is getting me down.

I was really hoping after some time had passed that things would improve, but they haven't.

Earlier this evening, my husband said to me, "We don't play anymore anyway".

The hell? We had a great time last Sunday night. While I'm still struggling, I have been getting better, little by little. Now the problem is every time he says something like that, it sets me back again, and I am starting to question why I should be working so hard to try to overcome this problem.

I understand he's frustrated. Hell, so am I - REALLY frustrated! However, I don't think his frustration excuses his behavior and frankly, I'm ready to give up and move on.

I think I'd be better off alone, and the thought of that no longer bothers me like it once did - like when I started this thread. Enough is enough.

((((Werewoman))))
I'm sorry this situation hasn't gotten any better for you. It takes a lot of work to get thru all this & it's a long road. I can sympathize. Hang in there!
Thinking of you!