Oral Sex?

I like giving it and getting it.

I've always enjoyed giving... but only with a guy I'm in a relationship with. I think I enjoy the power. I didn't enjoy receiving until recently. I guess I just needed to find a man who does it the way I like it.

Far out, not too many of us guys here. You'd think we'd see a topic that said "Oral Sex" and we'd come running.

I have to say that I thoroughly enjoy performing oral sex. To me, the orgasm itself is the biggest turn on. I guess it's a self-confidence boost to know that you can get that reaction. Knowing that I've left them satisfied is very important to me.

I guess one of the reasons behind that is because I can get a bit self-conscious when I'm having it done to me. I worry that they might be disgusted by it, sometimes despite their assurances that they wouldn't be doing it if they didn't want to. So, if I've satisfied her, the "guilt" over her satisfying me is substantially less, basically nonexistent.

It is a major turn-on, and more enjoyable when you know she is enjoying giving it. When both of us are enjoying giving oral sex to each other, it makes the sex so much more enjoyable. When you know that she isn't thinking "Okay, you do me, then I do you, alright? Then we can get back to our normal lives", you feel less inhibited and can just let yourself REALLY go. If she's doing it out of some feeling of obligation, I will still find it enjoyable but not as enjoyable as it could be.

What about you guys? Does it matter to you whether they enjoy giving it? Or does it not make a difference?

Geez, that post took a while. I definitely need to have a smoke now.

great answer, petulantwolf!!!!!!!!!!

obligation doesn't work very well for me either, Quirkster.......mutual satisfaction is a huge turn-on.....

Quirkster -

You're right I did think with the title the guys would come running Didn't get Doc John's opinion on this one though LOL!!!

Thanks for your honesty - it's a question I always wanted to ask.

Now to throw a twist in - if your partner didn't like giving would that cause an issue with your sex life? Would you then seek someone else? Would you end a relationship over it?

Gee, guess I had a few questions

Tranquility

I don't think that would be enough to let go of a good relationship myself.

I think it's important.. I don't know about if it would end a relationship, though. If it was a situation where he expected me to do it but refused to return, I would probably end it because he would probably be selfish in general.

Been tryin and tryin to think of something to say here lol.. But the only thing I can come up with is.....

I like it
I love it
I want some more of it! hahahhaha

Ohhhmy cant believe I said that !! LOL!

beth lol

I am great with giving and recieving it.

quirkster get yourself over to the uk rofl lmao.

jin

if my partner didnt wanna give it then thats great!
im not a fan of recieving
so its all about the giving
and man he loves it...

it doesnt cause a big fuss at all cos there is loads and loads of things he does for me..
our relationship is built on alot bigger things than sex

bethy ur a crack up... love ya

Sweetsunshine..............channeling Tim McGraw, huh?

hheehee yup !!

my now exwife gave me a training regime whilst we were still together that involved a standard 100g pot of yogurt (sp), it involves, hands behind your back, face down, eat the contents using only your tongue, its harder than you think but i am sure you get the picture.......... i love oral sex, not only recieving but giving also, but....................

girls you could make it easier if you said left, right, up, down, deeper, softer, harder, faster, slower ect

Oh my gosh - toooo funny! What a smart woman!

OMG, Mellors, that's great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by gosh, i'll give directions the next time!!!! pat

I always thought if I told a guy what/how to do it it would hurt his feelings. and I am shy when it comes to that. guess that is why at times I might feel....empty?

communicate, communicate, communicate......your words!!

i dont like giving oral that well ..... i have to be in a certain mood to want to....... tbut love receiving,.. ...

pat lol you are right! lol

In response to Tranquility's questions, I'm actually not sure what I would do.

I think that sex is a very important part of a relationship and that feeling sexually unsatisfied would have quite an impact. I guess the best way to overcome any sexual frustrations is to actually talk to her/him about it. My mate always tells me his frustrations with his girlfriend: how she she hates giving oral sex and how disinterested she is with sex in general. But, he won't talk to her about it. At all.

To me, it's confusing. If you're in a relationship, and you want it to go further, you have to talk about the stuff that pisses you off. At least if they talk about it, the problem could be solved or they could at least come to some understanding. They could decide to role-play, or watch sexy movies together, or try new lingerie, or anything. They have a sex convention here in Sydney one week a year, I'm not sure when (they advertise it on TV when it's coming up), but I reckon that would be such a good thing for them to go to. The problem is, he won't talk to her about it and then he comes to me and asks for advice.

I think if you're in a relationship and you're too afraid/unsure/nervous/disinterested to talk to your partner about your sex life, then you're in for some serious trouble in the long-term. They should be the first person you talk to about being sexually unsatisfied because they need to know or you'll continue being unsatisfied.

In my personal experience, I've always felt able to talk about sex. My last girlfriend and I would try many different things (including a memorable night on Shelley Beach in Manly), lingerie, etc., and we were both sexually satisfied. The relationship didn't end up working but it wasn't for lack of communication.

There are always other things you can do if you or your partner doesn't enjoy oral sex. A little bit of time spent in an adult shop and you might change your sex life forever.

But you'll never know if you don't talk about it.

This is how I felt when I saw some things in the "Tool Shed" sex shop in Paddington (I think, it's on Oxford Street anyway).

And then,

But, finally,

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I agree............... this is the #1 Problem when it comes to GOOD SEX vs. BAD SEX - Lack of Communication.