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Old Nov 29, 2015, 06:37 AM
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I'm 28 and a virgin, mostly for religious reasons. Will a guy ever date me knowing this or do guys my age only want experienced women?

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Old Nov 29, 2015, 08:16 AM
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am 27 and a virgin for "cultural" reasons. And I hate it! I wish I lived in a more liberal community.
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Old Nov 29, 2015, 08:39 AM
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am 27 and a virgin for "cultural" reasons. And I hate it! I wish I lived in a more liberal community.
Things are mostly conservative where I live but plenty of liberal too
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Old Nov 29, 2015, 11:02 AM
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Why the need to tell someone you're a virgin?

Look at it this way. If someone cares SO much about you being a virgin, then he's not the guy for you because he cares too much for sex and not enough for the other parts of a relationship.
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Old Nov 29, 2015, 11:21 AM
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Please re-read the post above. I agree 100%!
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Old Nov 29, 2015, 03:23 PM
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Why the need to tell someone you're a virgin?

Look at it this way. If someone cares SO much about you being a virgin, then he's not the guy for you because he cares too much for sex and not enough for the other parts of a relationship.
That's always been my hope
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Old Nov 30, 2015, 07:25 AM
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Good morning Beautiful. I have the utmost respect for you, in being a Virgin at 28 years old. I lost my Virginity at 16 years old got pregnant shortly thereafter, and lost my first child, that would be 32 years old this year. I'm very sad around the Holidays, and in September, when my child would have been born. Please Pray for me that I don't crash this Christmas, and make it until New Years Day. Take care. (((MANY LOVING HUGS))). I love you .
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Old Nov 30, 2015, 10:45 AM
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That's always been my hope
There are guys out there like this. Be patient and you will find him. You've waited this long. Would be a shame to lose it for the wrong reasons. Sounds like you understand that.

Honestly, as long as you are open to being sexual and uninhibited with the person you love, then a guy would be crazy to not want you.
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Old Nov 30, 2015, 11:41 AM
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just a thought on why tell anyone you are a virgin question...we live in a world where it isnt safe to not know about the other persons sexual activity.. there are many STD's that are not cure -able but are manageable. for example herpes. I know many couples who did not discuss whether each other was a virgin and what their respective sexual history was and the end result was one passing along herpes to the other. the other person in the relationships did not appreciate getting an incurable, constantly flaring up STD just because of not discussing the topic of each others sexual history.

plus its helpful in the relationship to know that one or the other or both are virgins. this enables certain precautions to ensure that first sexual encounter is an enjoyable one not one filled with pain because one partner didnt know so they moved too fast and too rough for an inexperienced body, other wise great damage emotionally and physically can happen.

yes there are people out there who either want their partners and their selves to be virgins, and cultures out there that require it, but being a virgin doesnt define who you are.

a person first falls in love with the other because of common ground issues, whether they enjoy the non sexual time they have together as friends and lets be honest sometimes what one finds attractive in the other comes into play here too.

my point unless you are the type of person to not care who you have sex with, have one night stands, there will be plenty of time where you and who ever get to know each other as friends before you become lovers.

my suggestion dont worry about being a virgin first. First take time to form lasting friendships and then the love and sex will naturally follow, and when its time to have the past history of sex conversation you will be more than ready to discuss it, simply because its what will prevent you from contracting an STD from your partner, it wont be a situation of hiding your own lack of sexuality and then wham bam thank you ma'am and have a little herpes for a lasting memory of me kind of thing.

just be your self and enjoy making non sexual friendships first.
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Old Dec 01, 2015, 04:15 AM
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I' a thirty year old man. I'm not a virgin, but I have essentially been celibate for about 9.5 years. I say, better to be a virgin and be in control of that aspect of your life than lose your virginity to somebody whose name you don't even know while drunk, like I did. Ultimately, it's a personal decision and anybody who isn't cool with it isn't worth your time. It shows you have self-control and that's a good thing! The right person will come along eventually.
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Old Dec 01, 2015, 01:45 PM
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I'm sorry but if a man can't look at you for you, then he's not a man then he's a boy. That's the simple truth. I want someone to love me for me not who they want me to be. If they have a problem with you being a virgin then they might miss who you really are
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Old Dec 03, 2015, 04:06 AM
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Old Dec 04, 2015, 09:45 PM
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I actually wish I could undo losing my virginity sometimes, but it is what it is and I am who I am, virgin or not.
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