Not seeing eye to eye.

Hello all,
This is something that has always bothered me about myself. I have never made eye contact during sex. When I was a child I was sexually abused and my way of getting through it was to close my eyes and "pretend it wasn't happening". Well years later I can honestly say I have never made eye contact with anyone I have been sexually active with. I'm close to turning thirty and I figure it's about time to change this. I don't have a sexual partner right now, but I want to resolve this issue before I do get romantically involved with anyone. Would anyone have any tips, advice, or links to assist with overcoming this obstacle? I haven't talked to my t about this yet, but I plan on bringing it up in our next session. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Well this might sound silly (and might be) but you could try looking in a mirror when you masturbated.

I don't either. But I close my eyes to concentrate. I have difficulty achieving orgasms with other people. Meds.

Start outside of sex, but in a more intimate situation. Each of you can sit in a chair that is very close to the other. One of you will have to open their legs for the other to be right against them. Put your hands in each other's hands and look into each other's eyes for 2 full minutes.

Hug for 1 minute.

Then go do something. Maybe you talk, maybe you watch some TV. But the importance is that it gives you a chance to become comfortable looking into your partners eyes outside a stressful situation (like sex). Do this every night that you can and it will hopefully help you grow more comfortable.