[cureav]

I'm sorry about the title,..
I'm seeing one girl that was dadys daughter (but in a sense when a father sees a daughter a bit more like a son - this girl is brave, not so feminine, has a lot of guy-like characteristics and interests but hey - she is straight!).
I have noticed that when we make love, she likes when I take her a but more assertive, harder; she got enough of gentle touch and she would like to be taken over. Recently, when we made love, my imagination went into 'soft rape mode' and she liked it. But now I don't think I got the power to get her to the top of that cause I'm the guy who was always taught to be gentle with girls.
My Q would be: how often a regular girl have this need to be taken over and should I go further and be more rough (even I don't have enjoyment in that and those moves) and search her boundary until she say 'Now stop that!'?
As I said, this girl has a lot guy-like character lines but she has feminine looks and use it really good.

[Big Mama]

Gentleness has its place so does roughness. Just like having your back scratched. Sometimes a soft light scratch will do, other times ya need a lot of scratching and kinda hard to. Different times and different needs call for different scratches.

Ask her how rough. When you are doing whatever it is you are doing, simply ask her ...harder, rougher, more. Follow her lead. If she says yes them proceed. If she seems content with that great, you can ask again if you feel same thing. (go with what you feel comfortable with, and what she wants)

I would ask her in advance, don't wait for her to say "Now stop that." Sometimes during sex one is unable to speak or say whole sentences. Have a safe word and a safe motion. A color maybe, or a kind of food, something totally unrelated to sex, or snapping your fingers, or whistle.

You don't have to be a tomboy and have guy like qualities to like it a little rough. Us ladies are ladies not delicate flowers or pansies.

[Webgoji]

I have to second Big Mama in that communication is important. Sometimes women want slow and passionate and other times they frenetic sex. It's all about communication.

[Patagonia]

Yes you're going to have to talk before engaging in sex again. Or start out by saying...you know last time we did A,B & C...would you want more of that? Less? What direction do you see this going?.....
Then hopefully she'll b honest enough to tell you.
Rough sex is a broad term. So are you basing this on what she can stand physically? Stamina? Position? Thrust level? I'd say you'll have to see find those boundaries together or someone will be injured. Rough sex has a wide spectrum depending on the individual.

[TishaBuv]

I agree with the above posters about communication, but, if this is not enjoyable to you, she may not be the girl for you.

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

I agree with the above posters about communication, but, if this is not enjoyable to you, she may not be the girl for you.

Ditto on that.