[evildouble102]

I'm a little dumbfounded... It's kind of out of character for me; however, I am impulsive sometimes- one of my symptoms I think... but anyways invited some guy over to my house tonight basically for sex... long story short, he felt like there were certain things like he thought it wasn't right to have sex and then leave right after for work, so he said he'd take a rain check and we'd have sex tomorrow night. So I'm really wondering if this is true or he's not coming back tomorrow or what... He said he'd leave me a "bargaining chip" a couple of trojans; so I'll have to wait and see-- just not sure how I feel whether I'm releived or feel bad or what. I think I was a little disappointed but feel like maybe, if he does come back I'll be more prepared... anyone else ever been where I am? Feeling kind of weird about all this.. Part of me hopes that it's not that he wasn't attracted to me and just left cause he was disgusted or something but didn't want to hurt my feelings.... but on the other hand I was pleasantly surprised that he seemed noble and gentlemenly about it. He said where it was sort of my first time he wanted things to be right. So if all that he said was true than maybe I'm lucky; I'll have to just wait and see I guess-- Danielle

if u do indeed feel relieved are u ready for this with him
is this something that u really want
sex is a major commitment whether casual or in full on relationship
be careful of the unexpected feelings on can get from playing around

take care

[meander]

Hey Danielle,

I think the above post makes a good point... I think your guy sounds nice, and I'm sure he'll be back, and it's good he's not rushing things too much. It sounds like he's only prepared to go as far as you're comfortable with, and genuinely wants to make it as good as possible for both of you, but just make sure you're really sure about what you want to do.