Is it wrong?

I am a 50 year old divorced female that is going through a time of feeling extremely hyper sexual lately.

I have posted on here a few times and have gotten some good advice to help me consider what I might want to do with this, while still remaining safe and I really appreciate that.

However, lately, I have been reflecting back on my very promiscuous days of high school and college (and basically my entire sexual history) and I am dreaming about many of these encounters frequently. I feel like I REALLY want to share the details of these experiences but I am not sure if that's wrong. My motivation to share these details (at this point) would be very selfish, because I don't feel like sharing them with any of my women friends and I could never share them with young men or married men, so I think that maybe by wishing to share them only with single guys in a certain age range, that I am looking to share my arousal with someone else (anonymously and safely) and I just don't know if that's right.

Also, I know I will not share this info. with my psychiatrist (who I see to have my meds dispensed only and he does not provide therapeutic counseling or services such as this) and I do not want to get a referral to another therapist, because I just feel like I'm not at a point where I am in need of therapy because I am not acting on any of this (plus, I pretty much know what a therapist would tell me and I don't necessarily want to be psychoanalyzed at this stage of the game).

I would appreciate any advice and suggestions (minus psychoanalysis if at all possible, please). Thanks.

Hello highnrg1: The Skeezyks recalls having replied to one of your previous Threads. Your title asks: "Is it wrong?" From my perspective, no it's not wrong. (The Skeezyks doesn't really deal in right & wrong.) However, that doesn't mean it's a good idea either. I do think you need to take a close look at where you're going with this. Realistically, who is it you're going to end up sharing this information with? What might their motivation be for "listening"?

It seems to me the only real reason for you to share this information, with the types of individuals you say you would want to share it with, is as you wrote for the arousal factor on your part. It may well be the only reason the person(s) you share with want to hear it as well. And once you've whipped up your arousal (& that of your reader or listener) where does it go from there? How do you then squelch the fires you've stoked? One does not squelch a fire by throwing gasoline on it.

Assuming that this is in fact the case, then what this ends up being, I fear, is simply something akin to phone sex or internet porn. Is that really what you want to be doing? And also, if this is something you would do anonymously either over the internet, or on the phone for instance, how would you know that the person you're communicating with is actually the type of person you want to be sharing with? How would you feel if it turned out it was actually some young teenage boy who's in the midst of developing an addiction to porn? Many people, on the internet, present themselves as being someone they're not.

I know you wrote you don't want to be psychoanalyzed. And that's fine because the Skeezyks isn't in any way qualified to do that. But I do think you really need to consider, deeply, what's going on here & where you're going with this before you dive into it. It strikes me as being kind-of a journey into the unknown. I wish you well...

Thanks, again, SkeezyKS…

Just because something is not "wrong", that doesn't necessarily make it "right" either. Even though I "think" I sometimes am trying to set up "safe" parameters to deal with everything, as you mentioned, people lie sometimes and I would be very upset if I influenced someone in a negative way like that. (In fact, that was being discussed in another thread and I actually believe that sometimes people lie online and we need to be careful, but I couldn't see it as clearly at my OWN situation, so I am glad you brought that point up for me to consider).

I think my best bet right now is to channel my energies elsewhere and get to "work" on a productive project. When I was working, these urges were not preoccupying my time or attention at all during the day and only occasionally at night, so I think it will be good for me to "work" on another project until I am working again.

In fact, maybe it will be healthy for me to journal some of my experiences and try to uncover what I may need to be working through and why I am needing to process and revisit those experiences right now. Journaling would also help me deal with everything that's been going on in my life over the past few years. Then, I might need to process this with a therapist in the future and/or learn to work through this more productively on my own. Maybe that can either help me with my readiness for a relationship in the future or it could also help me learn to be content with being alone, if that's how I can be healthiest.

Thanks for your advice! I appreciate it!