[tranquility]

Okay, so I'm alone, so the first one pertains to me
Do you ever have days when you just can't achieve orgasm? It's weird - like one day you're horny as hell and it can happen in 3 seconds and other days it just doesn't happen at all. What gives???

Tranq

[InACorner]

i dont know...but it definitly happens to me...i have no idea....and its annoying as heck isnt it lol

[Maven]

I just want to make sure I understand. Do you mean when you feel aroused, but no matter what you do, you can't reach orgasm, or do you mean being horny one day, and having no desire the next? I relate to both, and that wanting to reach orgasm and not being able to is torture!!! But it's normal, as I've found out from my reading and watching documentaries and sex advice shows. The more stressed out you get about it, the harder it becomes, so try not to let it get to you, ok?

One thing you might try is Zestra, which is an expensive (around $25 a box) mix of oils in little packets you can rub in your girly parts that helps arouse you and can help with orgasm. I tried half of one packet, but I'd like to try it again (the box got thrown away before we moved). It smells a little weird, but just don't smell too closely and it's no big deal. It really does create a wonderful sensation. I didn't taste it, but my research and reading indicates it does not taste good, so if you happen to be using it with a partner, advise him or her to skip the oral for now. I don't think there's any harm tasting it, but you just don't want to. It's got fish oil and stuff in it. It can be a bit messy, especially if you use the whole pack (you can use half a pack to make it last longer, but I want to try a whole pack next time), so you might want to put a towel or something under you. It takes about five minutes to really feel the effects, but it's very nice!

[tranquility]

Thanks inny - yes frustrating!

Maven - actually both things you said are true. But what frustrates me more is when I am aroused and then the orgasm just doesn't come. I hadn't heard of Zestra - thanks for the info!

Tranquility

yup!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[seeker1950]

I actually have to admit I'm kind of depressed, and never thing about sex, even helping myself in this area.
Patty

[bebop]

I think sometimes we are so "horny" we might try to hard and it just won't work no matter what we do. very frustrating to say the least.

[withit]

Have you tried reading some provocotive literature or what.

What helps me is reading some hot scene....helps me climax real fast.

And standing as opposed to lying in bed.

i has a man also have had this problem, even the last ditch resort of the porn tape you havent watched in a month or so doesnt work at times, there is nothing you can do, sometimes has a man it does work out for you though, failure to "acheive" orgasm makes you obviously last longer when on a first date or even with a regular partner, so it is not all bad.

[tranquility]

Mellors -

I like how you can look at the glass half full!

Tapes do help I must admit

Tranquility

[DocClyde]

Yes.

Sometimes is the medication that a person is taking, it can be stress, it can be a whole lot of things...usually for me (as it seems to be for others), it is definitely when I dont want it to be...

i agree with Clyde here. when i started on lamictal, i had mega problems........i am up to 75mg now and having no problems whatsoever.........there's HOPE and a LIGHT at the end of the tunnel......

that thread was in "drugs".......i guess the fun has got me thinking screwy.......