[SweetSunshine]

This is kind of a spin off of Lastresorts thread in the womens support forum. But I kinda wanted to get everyones perspective on it as it can effect women and men.

Do you have a favorite sex position when it comes to back or leg pain?Something besides the ol missionary position lol

Would love to hear all opinions on this.. Thanks!!!

[Raynaadi]

Yeah.....I have the same problem. I can't really do anything aside from missionary because of leg cramps. However, since doing Pilates, my legs are getting stronger so maybe I could try something else.

****I hope this isn't TMI but....the guy I was in a relationship with before the one I'm in now liked different positions. One that we found that I actually liked was um...how to put this nicely....standing up with me bent over the arm of the couch, and using rear entry. It was definitely different and it was actually pretty enjoyable, and since my legs were just straight, they didn't cramp up. So.....maybe that could be fun tee hee. K I can't believe I posted THAT hahaha!!!!!

Edited to clarify that "rear entry" doesn't mean the nasty thing that might come to mind when I say rear....I don't know how to say it ummmm, still going in the proper place but from the rear, um yeah haha!!!!

[SweetSunshine]

Hey Ray!! Its open and frank discussion so if it worked it worked!! I was asking for answers.. you gave one kudo's to you!!! lol. I know this is a tricky question to answer.. because it leaves us feeling vulneralble, but hey if it can help others out too.. so be it!! And if there's some fun involved.. well... so be that too!!

Thank you for being so open about your life!!

[Raynaadi]

Lol yeah....my life is pretty much an open book. Keeping myself closed back in the day led to my drinking problem, and we don't that again hahaha. So I'm pretty open as far as what I have to share if it can help someone else.

Sometimes the cramps can help a little.....tee hee at least as far as one time with bf, he had a cramp suddenly in his ab and moved just slightly to the side and I was like WHOOO HOOO!!!!! LOL!!!!!

Sex is tricky though for those of us with physical ailments, thats for sure.....I've come to find out that a loving and caring partner makes all the difference. My boyfriend doesn't push me to do anything thats painful and that is so imporant.

I have a question....its kind of off topic but since this is a fairly personal type thread I'm gonna go for it. How can I let my boyfriend know that I need more foreplay? We kiss a lot and kind of grind on each other and it works, gets me hot and bothered, but I like to be "touched" before hand. Its almost like he doesn't like to use his hands. In the beginning he did, but thats kind of tapered off. I even remember asking him in the beginnning if he wasn't a boob man cuz he didn't touch them, and he told me that he didn't know if he should because we were still new and hadn't had sex yet. Should I just say something?? Whats the best way to go about that? I've tried touching him to kind of hint, but he doesn't take the hint haha. Suggestions?

[bebop]

simply guide his hands to where you want them. I know sometimes if my hubby is touching me and I like it and moan just right he takes the hint lol.

Beth if you find the answer would you let me know? lol I know our bed is really high off the ground and I found this week that I can bend over the bed for support and it isn't too bad.

[heyjoe]

hanging from a chandelier takes the weight off your leg and stretches out your back. barring that a nice high back of a couch makes an excellant substitute.

oh joe stop it I just spat tea all over my new lappy.

Spose you jump off the wardrobe too and swing from the chandalier like tarzan beating your chest lmao

oh my, when my back hurt i leaned over the back of the sofa and did the doggy i mean position not the actual dog

ok nuff said, also lots of pillows under your tummy maybe???

jin xoxoxoxoxo

spin off to joes chandelier try a swing.. u can get em at bondage/bdsm stores... www.saxleather.com thats my fav online store....
u could also find other toys to make missionary position more exciting....

[wickedwings]

oh, LOL, am i happy to see this thread! it's cool. and i have a funny question to ask about sexual positions. my hubby loves to experiment with positions, really. i like do experiment, as well. one thing really prevents us from having a good sex with different positions is our size differences. i'm 5' 2" and my hubby is 6' 4"! we've only been able to do missionary, and the top position as well as the doggy style. we tried other positions, and they proved to be too difficult to do due to our height differences (plus, my hubby has a belly). we want to try other positions, but have tried them and it wouldn't work other than bathing ourselves in sweat. lol.

i think bebops suggestion was a good one lol.
i quite enjoy being on top so i can create my own foreplay (nicer than a hand, i find)
another thing is to kind of play 'hard to get' (in a kind of a teasy way) so its like he has to do this and that before you give him permission to do whatever else.