[black-roses]

I'm not asexual but if someone calls me hot I feel uncomfortable I just feel naked to them. I never understood also why I would need to call someone hot so that they can have the reassurance? I never got it. I always thought it was more of a thing you said to let someone know you are into them. I am not one of those girls that like it, it makes me feel like you are just after me for my beauty or body parts. Also, I am not someone that puts a lot of value in looking for a partner with good looks it has and will always be about what they make me feel. I guess I am not defined as asexual I just am a little bit more reserved and just feel a little more relaxed if I am not in the spotlight. I think I am more of an avoidant type if you were to ask me in terms of personality. In fact, I have no idea why I haven't been diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder. I definitely go overboard with placing boundaries on myself and others.

[eskielover]

IMO, calling someone Hot is similar to the cat calls that guys would make when a woman walked by. Totally inappropriate ever on the cat calls & using the term hot only possibly when already in a relationship with the person. A friend could say you are looking Hot today as a compliment for really looking nice, but I do not approve of sexual overtones between people who don't even know someone.....that has to do with sexual values, not with a label that people keep sticking on themselves so people know where they are coming from sexually....again none of anyone's business unless you really know the person. IMO, Too much weight is being placed on SEX in society these days rather than keeping it a private thing between the people who are involved.

[black-roses]

Yes I love that I absolutely agree that society has way to much obsession with placing someone in a sexual category. Also being just very forward sexually. People just need understand that calling someone hot when you don't know them can be taken as sexual harassment the same as cat calling. That's why I prefer that guys don't refer me to hot, sexy etc at all. For me it is never comfortable because it places way to much value on sex and sexuality and I'd rather just be held and respected. That's my view point on it. I just wish more guys understood that sometimes even being playful or just forward can accidentally objectify a woman.