[ZenZeta]

OK... I'm sure many would throw stones at me for this or WISH they had this issue, but I am at my wit's end.



My BF has a VERY high sex drive, and I thought I was doing OK in that department, but I CAN'T.GET.A.BREAK!!!! Literally!!

I can be on my cycle, and he wants to get a towel because HE doesn't mind. Well, it's not a cleanliness thing with me. I typically don't feel my sexiest during that time. Most of the time I don't even want to be TOUCHED.

It gets worse. As a result of ALL of the action we've been getting in, I have developed vaginitis (most likely a reaction to the condoms). I have literally had fire between my legs for the past few days. I've been taking meds, but the best remedy is to keep that area clear until the infection clears up.

It's been TWO DAYS and he's whining! I've offered alternative methods of pleasure, but he says he doesn't enjoy that (what PLANET is this guy from), and we got into this huge fight because he doesn't believe me!

He thinks I'm lying!! I even showed him my pH results (I'm at a 7 when normal range should be 4.6).

In one breath he says he doesn't want me to just do it because HE wants to, but in the next breath he says I'm controlling him by saying no. WHAT GIVES???

I've tried to explain even before the infection that there are some nights that I just want to SLEEP (especially after working two jobs back to back), or that if we're going to do it, we need to start earlier than 1 AM because I have to work early the next day.

His response... "You think this is about ______ (derogatory word for intercourse), but you won't hear what I need..."

So is something wrong with my ears or am I dating an insensitive nymphomaniac?

[Crazy Hitch]

Yup. You nailed it on the head with nymphomaniac. He should realise his drive is above the norm and give you peace and a break when you need it.

[s4ndm4n2006]

I think the actual term is Satyromaniac but in a word, yes.

He sounds like a very spoiled, controlling and insensitive jerk to me. talking about his 'needs' as if he NEEDS sex everyday. yes he has a high sex drive but if he is making you sacrifice your health because of it, and doesn't care, I'd think twice about even sticking around. If he's this insensitive about something that is absolutely not necessary at these levels in a relationship, how do you think he will be about his other needs down the road? It's a clear sign of how highly he values you and respects you. I'm sorry to say...

[~Christina]

I would not put up with that. I'm sorry he's not showing you any respect !

[fairydustgirl]

I think most of us women can commiserate about period sex (no) and for goodness sakes, you have an infection, what is he thinking??? Just...no. There is NO reason he should expect you to cause further harm to your reproductive health by having sex when you aren't healthy...I find that beyond disrespectful...that's someone who has no care whatsoever about you, your body and your health. He sees your body as his possession, the object by which he takes care of himself. You need to reconsider how this man treats you and whether or not this is something you can continue to live with.

I would get rid of him he doesn't care about your feelings, He sounds like a controlling prick

If he's willing to put his out of control irrational needs above your health and well being....dump this loser or get him a blow up doll and get some rest gurlfriend...you deserve it.

[glitterbutterfly]

I'd get out of there

I'd just give him a hand...if that just ain't good enough...l sorry, game over

[martinerous]

Maybe he is too sensitive to refusals and takes it too personally?

I see that you have tried to inform him in direct manner with your pH results and he still didn't get it. Maybe there is some clever way to convince him that it doesn't have anything to do with his masculinity and that you still have desire for him but just need a break from time to time, especially when it hurts.

If it turns out that he is not capable to receive the message in any form and shape, then I'm sorry, it means your relationships won't work.