[YOLO Lady]

I love receiving oral sex but often times I can't enjoy it because I feel that the guy can't possibly really be enjoying my ***** and it's wetness. I worry that he thinks that it's gross and that he's tired and doesn't want to do it. Because of this, I can't cum. I'm thinking of telling him about all of this so that maybe he can act like he really likes what he's doing and then I'd cum big-time! Can any women relate? Guys, what do you think about this?

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by YOLO Lady

I love receiving oral sex but often times I can't enjoy it because I feel that the guy can't possibly really be enjoying my ***** and it's wetness. I worry that he thinks that it's gross and that he's tired and doesn't want to do it. Because of this, I can't cum. I'm thinking of telling him about all of this so that maybe he can act like he really likes what he's doing and then I'd cum big-time! Can any women relate? Guys, what do you think about this?

As an abuse survivor / lesbian there was a point in my life where I had this problem occasionally. what worked for me was using flavored lubes and favorite "toppings" and getting creative. this not only changed my views on what down there smelled and tasted like but also added quite a twist, variety and heightened enjoyment to my and my partners sex life. now that I am married to the most wonderful woman we both still enjoy spicing up our sex life in many different ways.

Um, sometimes I like to have a bit of my favorite dark chocolate because it tastes good with my Hs cum. For the most part, I don't think our cum taste bad! I have cum to this conclusion because sometimes when I cum first, I finish the job by giving H oral sex and I can definitely taste it. I assume that keeping yourself "trim" would help because my H has a mustache and when he allows it to get to bushy, he gets my face all wet when I kiss him sometimes. Most men are not going to give you oral sex unless they want to. I have been married 30 years and this topic has spontaniously come up (both in "fights" and in moments of caring) so my conclusion definitely includes a man's point of view. I assume that for most women there are many things that make them climax so the guy will just get the job done in the way he prefers.
PS As far as being able to cum if the guy likes what he is doing goes--isn't all sex better when we are enthusiatic about it? Sometimes just a smile can be a huge turn on. However, when my H has complained that I am having a day when I am not being enthusiastic--this does not help the romance. Enthusiasm is not something you can turn on or off just because someone asks. It is a culmination of how you are feeling about your partner on a certain day. Maybe keep this in mind if you have a conversation about this subject (tell him how you feel and what you like but don't tell him he is not enthusiastic enough).

[TishaBuv]

I can relate to worrying that getting me off is too physically demanding and time consuming. So i usually ask for a toy to take the pressure off both of us.

There is a feeling of vulnerability with it that really bothers me deep down. My struggle in my marriage has a lot to do with this.

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

I can relate to worrying that getting me off is too physically demanding and time consuming. So i usually ask for a toy to take the pressure off both of us.

There is a feeling of vulnerability with it that really bothers me deep down. My struggle in my marriage has a lot to do with this.

I tell myself "he wouldn't be doing this unless he wanted to" (and feel like the acceptance of gifts and gestures as they are, with no request for modifications is loving) and concentrate on relaxing/taking deep breaths. I do understand why it is hard to do. <<hugs>>
PS Of course, I feel more confident about sex when I recently bathed!

[Spots]

I like the idea of using some toppings. Just try to relax, maybe a glass of wine helps. What I wouldn't use is parfume, it's might smell good, but it doesn't taste well...

[SgtRock]

Before I came out, I was with the ladies. And yes, I did perform oral on them. I only did it if I was in the mood to do so. And when I started, I finished. Never leave a lady hanging. lol