[ladytiger]

I haven't been in here in a long time. I must say at 31 yrs old, my life has gotten a lot better. Some things I am confused/or a bit embarrassed about. A transgendered woman I'm seeing who is 54 still has a penis but it rarely gets hard due to hormone meds.

She uses an 8 in strap-on on me. My vagina is really tight as I never and don't ever want to have kids; she also knows of my past bad sexual history too, plus I wasn't sexually experienced enough. When having sex, my legs still tighten like its protecting my vagina from penetration but she has been very gentle with me we mesh very well sexually. We have done different positions that I have never experienced before.

When I get penetrated deeply, it feels like I have to urinate and I don't want to end up urinating during orgasming either. I have been learning to relax during sex I do trust her a lot with me. Do you ladies feel like urinating during sex? I try to urinate before and after sex. Do I have anything to be embarrassed about?

Sometimes it's hard for me to tell if I orgasm, I feel my vagina throbbing after each thrust of penetration. I feel I focus too much on my penetration and trying to force myself to orgasm. The 8 in dildo went really deep to my cervix which felt amazing I can feel the sensation around my pelvic area sometimes too much. I do have a pretty sensitive vagina which is why my legs tend to close up, is there anything I can do about its sensitivity?

[Patagonia]

Wow it sounds like you're really enjoying all your sexual experiences with this person & going slow so you're both comfortable. That's awesome!

Sometimes I do have that feeling during sex that I have to urinate eventho I go before we start. My problem is I have a weak bladder from carrying children, but I've also read & experienced many times "squirting" & it is the feeling that I have to go. If I hold it, it becomes painful. So my partner told me to push with the urge & sometimes this causes me to squirt which, for me is a different type of orgasm I feel in my pelvis, groan & works up into my chest area. At first it scared me bec I never experienced it before, but for me it is a type of body orgasm that I have. Totally different from other types of orgasms that I experience.

Now when this happened I was at first very embarrassed about it bec some say it's urine & some say it's not. That's a different argument, but it does not embarrass me anymore & my partner enjoys it too. So I think with time you can learn to relax & enjoy this more.

Have you tried different size & width dildos? It might change the experience too.
All the best to you & have a blast!