Trouble with Sexual Orientation

Hello!

I have a bit of a problem. I'm a 24-year-old female, currently studying at a university.
I've never been in a relationship so far, never had any sort of expirience with kissing, sex or anything of the sorts. Lately I've begun longing for some companionship, maybe attention (hugs, kisses), but I have a serious issue with deciphering who I'm exactly attracted to. As far as my memory reaches I've had no actual "sexual awakening" of sorts (I do masturbate, but it doesn't really involve fantasies about me "doing it" with other people) ? I fear this may stand in the way of developing any real relationships in the future.

Would this be a kind of problem that a psychotherapist could help me with ? Is this something other people have also faced ?

Hello Bromstrom: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

With regard to your question, what I can tell you is that I'm an old man who has struggled with gender identity issues since early childhood. I've seen a few different therapists for brief periods over the years. They ranged from mediocre to dreadful! (I'll spare you the details.) So my response to your question is yes. The problem you describe is certainly one a therapist could potentially help you with.

From my perspective, though, it's important to find a therapist who is knowledgeable, as well as experienced, in working with individuals who have sexual orientation issues. A therapist who is not can, in my experience, do more harm than good. And it can take a few tries to find the right therapist for you. Not every therapist works well with every client. It would be nice if there were some formula one could use to identify the perfect therapist. But there's not. It's just mostly trial-&-error I'm afraid.

So certainly do check into this. It could be a real turning point for you. Just be cautious I would say. Good luck... and please keep posting here on PC. It can help too!

Would you be willing to give a few more details that might help us understand what is puzzling you?

You will have to do some experimenting here. If you're not sure of your sexual orientation, try visiting an alternative club that welcomes everyone. You'll be able to meet all kinds of people.

Sexual orientation is like going to a buffet, you won't be sure what you like until you try it all. I've been exposed to the LGBTQIA+ community for many years, and many women have found their true selves there.