Gender Confusion?

Well, this has been an interesting thread to read. I came out transgender at the age of 27, and I am now 28. Although I identified as a gay man for most of my life, something still just felt wrong. It is like everything that I was doing to my body was trying to make it into a girl, for example, doing electrolysis on my face to remove my beard. I have always wanted to have sex with a vagina and have never used my %#@&#! during sex. I finally took the plunge and went on cross-gender hormones last year and will be having my genital surgery this coming January. As happy as I am to be going through this, I wish I would have had this courage to transition at an earlier age.

Cyrano, from your posts, it sounds to me like you could very well be transgender as well. I think you should seek out a gender therapist ASAP to explore this. There is only so much satisfaction that crossdressing and fantasizing can bring. If indeed you are transgender and begin a physical transition, I hope you do it soon because most all transgenders all wish we would have done it at an earlier date.

Tracy

i'm not sure if i've posted in this thread before, and my concentration is so bad these days that i can't bother to read it thorogoughly (sorry spelling a bit bad too right now) but i felt compelled to ask if anyone has ever read the article on wikipedia about "genderqueer"?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genderqueer

i had been wondering all my life what the heck was wrong with me until i read that article last year. it hit 100% home.

not sure if i need a gender therapist tho. i just hate being female mostly, but i don't fully identify with being male either. i don't want to be either gender. i just want to be katie.


crayz.

My hubby just came out to me that he is a crossdresser and we are stuggling to get through this together. It is an issue you may want to explore with a couselor to see how far it goes. No matter the outcome be happy with who you are and embrace yourself.

*hugs* love who r u and never stray from it to please others

I think what you are feeling is normal.
I was always a tomboy and for about 6 years, from age 13-19 I though I was transgender. I wore mostly all boy clothes. Had no interest in girly things, still don't. Ordered binders for FTMs of the internet. I wanted surgery and hormones. I came really close to starting hormones. I finally noticed that it was just my mom making me feel that way. Ever since I was little I was never feminine enough. I wanted a skateboard. She wanted me to play with dolls. She forced gender stereotypes onto me and made me feel like I was the wrong gender. She has been trying to get me to have a breast reduction and it wasn't until then that I noticed how messed up she was making me. I like video games, drumming, extreme sports, and what not. I don't need to be a guy to like the things I like. She makes up crazy rules that woman have to live by. For example. Only guys can wear sneakers in the summer or with shorts. You have to always have all 20 nails painted. You always have to carry a purse. I also have PCOS and got horrible periods since I was 11. That didn't help at all. I now take birth control non stop so I don't have to deal with that. I get about 4 periods a year that way. The biggest thing for me was realizing I didn't have to fit anyones view of what a girl should be. There isn't a role I have to follow. The clothes for girls suck now. Everything is so tight. I am in the normal weight range for my hight. I could gain 10 pounds and my BMI would still be normal. But very few tops for girls fit me. My DDs are the biggest problem. Everything is made to make you look "sexy" and show everything. It is really hard finding modest clothes. By todays view of thin I am fat. I remember in high school girls talking about being 94 pounds and how 90 looked to anorexic but 96 looked fat. I was 90 pounds when I was 10 years old. These girls were about 16. A little boys Medium is bigger then a girls XL. I noticed this the other day when there was a misplaced kids t shirt in the womans section.

Tell me about it. I am a male to female transgender. You know what my therapist told me, as we were discussing the high beauty standards put on women. A man can get away with being unattractive to a woman if he makes $260,000/year. Guess how much a woman has to make for a guy to overlook her unattractiveness, according to guys? $0.00. The point is that there is no amount of money a woman can make to buy herself out of being unattractive. Thought this was pretty interesting, yet also sad.

OMG I feel this way too about being a dude ! I have always felt like this since I was 4 years old, been a right tom boy, I feel I am a male trapped inside a female body.why couldnt I have been born a boy ? not fair !

That is sad to know.

Hell yes!! :d

I've had a lot of the same thoughts.