[jannie]

Hi, I am new, my name is Jannie, I would like to know if anyone on here feels its fair in a relationship for my partner to limit my orgasms because he dont want to give me more than one . If he wanted more than one I would not mind. What do you think.. Thanks Jannie

[Karissa258]

I don't know if this thread is going to get yanked or not (about an adult topic), but I'll chime in anyway. Why does he want to limit how many you have? That seems kind of strange and controlling.

Really weird way to act I think, surely he wants you to enjoy yourself ?

[jannie]

Thank you for your response, he feels its selfish of me to want more than one orgasm, he sometimes gives me two but feels that is enough. he also feels, if we are not mutually having sex I should not have any,however after much pleading he does give in now and then. I just dont feel its right as I would please him as much as he wanted if he needed it.

Jannie

[Malachite]

Dear Jannie,

As a man, I expect, to be at the service of my woman, any hour of the day or night. To please her sexually, in any way she wants, and all ways she wants, for as long as she wants, and as often as she wants. It is an honor, a duty and a great pleasure.

I realize, at times, a man may have a sexual disability, e.g., an erectile dysfunction, and may not be able to engage in coitus. However, he would have to be severely disabled, not to be able to bring his woman to repeated orgasms, in some fashion.

However, what you describe, is nothing less than premeditated sexual abuse, as well as emotional abuse. I believe, this guy is trying to control you, subjugate you, by undermining your self-esteem. Please, unload this guy, kick him to the curb. You don't want him in your life; you deserve, better. You deserve a man, who will admire you, respect you, and cater to your wants and needs, to the best of his ability

I wish you the best,

Larry

[jacqueline1110]

Very well said Malachite and thanks for being a man and being a (gentle)man about it as well.

[lifeblows]

Yeah, I agree with Larry, get out while you can. You are fortunate enough to be able to have orgasms and more than one even. You would be the envy of many women and most men would delight and pride themselves on being able to give you more than one. They'd be thrilled to give you the pleasure more than once. Anyone who wants to control you and undermine you sexually is bad news. You'd be in a happier relationship with someone who was willing to give and receive as much as you are.

[multipixie9]

Jannie

I gotta agree with Malachite. This man has a grudging, stingy attitude toward you for NO good reason.

The point of relationships is mutual benefit and mutual joy. Why would someone want to limit their partner and say you should only have this small amount of joy?

Besides being stingy that attitude is cruel. He wants you to beg for something he should freely offer.

I've been married for 28 years and we've had good seasons and bad and NEVER would my spouse treat me that way - which is ONE reason of many that we are still together.

You need and deserve better, kick this creep to the curb, dear and keep looking!!!

Leslie