I need your help....

Im wondering if anyone can help me... I'm 20 year old female who is getting married in 4 weeks.... my fiance is 24 and we have been together for 4 years now.. we have always had a great relationshop except things are starting to go down hill quick smar because we have never had sex.... Its not that i dnt want to its always on my mind, its that i just cant. I was sexually molested by a YOUNGER cousin (only approx 1 year younger) for a few years when i was a 13 or 14... i did open up about it but not untilit happened to my sister by the same cousin and was beaten by my step dad and told i wanted it! I have spoken to my Dr as i was meant to have an internal ultrasound and couldnt do it and have spoken about it and she belives this is my problem and i should speak to a counsellor.. i love my fiamce more than anything in the world and would love to be able to fix it myslef without having to speak to a stranger baout my problem. We have tried numerous times ut have never done it as i have always pulled out. This is really starting to affect my realtionship. I want to marry my fiance but dont belive i will unless i can fix this. Can anyone offer any advice???

i've found speaking to a stranger is the absolute best solution. a stranger doesn't have any vested interest in having sex with you - so there is no pressure to get better immediately. the 'stranger' i speak to is my pdoc, and i have been seeing him for a while now, so he is hardly a stranger anymore - just someone who cares about me a lot.

does your fiance know about what happened? if you tell him, it might help him understand and be more patient with you.