Having a lot of experience- and boyfriend doesn't

I met a nice man at the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance- he was well dressed, has a nice family, is pretty well off, is kind, is a Christian as I am, and just a decent good looking guy.

I have a long history of sleeping with many, many men, all kinds of sex, I am used to getting it whenever and however I want it..

He, on the other hand, is a virgin.

He was over late one night and we fell asleep by each other's side..he began fondling me and I him, I ended up giving him oral sex, and he ended up losing his virginity to me..for a small second..then he backed off, asking why I ever invited him to lay down with me.

He did ask about doing it again, although his feelings are definately mixed- half of him seems to want sex, the other half seems so fragile and hesitant..

I do not want to hurt him! I can back off and let our relation grow, I can..I can learn to accept his lack of experience/skill..

I am used to really, really, hot lovers with lots of skill and lasting very long though...

Yet I feel this is a DECENT SWEET guy and perhaps it is time I spent time with someone like him, after all, I feel lonely when all these bad boys **** me and leave mintues after...

Perhaps Justin, as I'll call him, perhaps Justin and I could learn to relate to each other in a more mature but less satisfying way, perhaps with time it COULD EVENTUALLY be satisfying...

Thoughts?...........

Many moons ago I went for a job as a barmaid, I told them I had no experience but really could do with the job, he told me yep I can have it BECAUSE I had no experience ! He said its better that way as he can teach me the right way to suit his pub ...

If you take it slow you can grow with each other and you can teach him it could actualy be quite fun .

Grow in all areas not just in sex.

Iam in this very situation at the moment. I am the less experienced one. We ended up going farther than I ever had one night and I just recently freaked out and said I didnt want to do anything else. Now I am slowly getting back into seeing him lol He is very understanding, much like yourself.

Perhaps the fear of the unfamiliar is what brings it all home. I was ok doing things at first but then I felt weird after doing so and was all nevous about how inexperienced I am and how it probably wasnt good to him, I made an idiot out of myself etc etc

Maybe he is just afraid of being seen a immature for not knowing everything?

((((halliebeth)))

Perhaps, this can turn into a thread for EITHER more experienced or less experienced..

After all, that was once the boat I was in- I was actually a 27 year old virgin unti I discovered sex, and wanted more and more of it..

..until the 'more' became 'too much!'

Hallie are you able to discuss things with your boyfriend? It is very, very scary at first!!!

we actually not dating......*looks away*

what if you're BOTH inexperienced??!?! That REALLY sucks.. trust me. haha

((hallie))

If you felt weird after, the AFTER is what one lives, with..

I feel you did NOT make an idiot of yourself, though...you knew when to say, "No."

What's the latest?

Junerain,

Considering what you wrote below... I do hope you are getting tested for STDs, including HIV on a regular basis.

I also hope you are practicing safe sex, as it would be a shame to infect this guy, especially if he is not aware of your long history.

he says hes interested in me but i dont think well go far

It is up to _you how far to take things with him...only _you.....

I think you already have the answer.

Best wishes to both of you.