crush on teacher

This is very embarrassing, so please withhold the laughter and judgement. I've had cases before where I had a crush on a teacher in grade seven. I felt like they were the love of my life, no joke. I always felt happy being in their class and my life seemed a lot brighter. I guess i got attention i had always seeked. What is really horrible is that I had a crush on my teacher in grade nine. and I still can't get them out of my head. I know it sounds silly but I don't even know why I have these feelings. It's not like this guy loves me or something, and I know this. I guess I just wish he did. I've tried so many times to get him out of my head. It's not like i don't have a bf. I do. My bf is a hunk and I love him...but not the same way I obsessed over my teacher. I feel like I love my teacher on a deeper level. I'm 19 by the way and out of highschool. I don't know why I'm acting like a crazed school girl. It's not that I want to have sex with my teacher, and I would never want to marry him...but I just feel cared for...it's a really weird feeling. Sometimes I snap back to reality and realise how stupid I'm acting...but sometimes I get stuck in this...can someone explain what is wrong with me?...it's not like my teacher knew me that well either...I was really shy and quiet...but he made me feel special...helppdoes anyone else have these feelings

I've had crushes on teachers they were all female teachers though and this started when I started high school sometimes I used to dream that they were my mom or that I lived with them, in most of these dreams I was a little kid. Oh I remember having a terrible crush on my kindergarten teacher and the funny thing was that I was always at her side when I was in school.

I would never laugh at you.....with you maybe....

I understand totally...

My second grade teacher was imprinted upon me...She treated me with a special Grace and care at a time when I felt very alone...

I have been searching for her in every relationship since...

Never found her...probably never will...

Lenny

I guess I'm not as weird as I thought. there were some things i disagreed with about my teacher. thanks for making things clearer...but now I'm sad, because i realise this is what I want in a relatinoship...and now I realise i might never have it either

Lenny, I don't mean to embarrass or harrass you but I can't help but say, why are you always in the sexual and gender issues forum lol

sorry I couldn't help myself...I'm bad

I don't embarrass easily....

First.."always" is a word that, when used, often puts the user is a tentative but committed position. Things are seldom "always" anything..Point of fact..just did a cursory check and 80% percent of my posts are in other forums...

Second,,,for someone to know I hung out in a bar all the time,,,well,,,they would have to be there to know....

Thirdly,,,absence makes the heart grow fonder....

Lenny

Ok fine Lenny, I was wrong...I was just trying to tease you. And yes, I missed your informed comments on my posts...hope things are well...nice golden retrievers

Appology graciously accepted...Thank you.

All is well and Dusty and Casey thank you as well....

Lenny

Crushes are fun and titillating and usually harmless. If your teacher actually got you in a dark corner and made an awkward pass at you, it would probably be no fun at all.

myoasis - i had these often too. i used to *obsess* about some of my teachers, and still did, even after i'd left high school and lost touch with them. now i'm at uni so of course i crush over my tutors instead .

i'm 24 now so it's been a while since high school, but i think i've come to realise that a lot of my obsession stemmed from some of the things other people here have mentioned - feeling a bit special, listened to or cared for, even if the teacher didnt know you very well. for me - teachers were the only safe and stable adult influences in my life at that time. they taught me stuff i was interested in, but they didnt get angry or beat me up if i didnt understand straight away.

so i guess it's no wonder that i used to idolise them.

one thing i've found - if you get one of those crazy, heady crushes about someone you don't know that well - the easiest way to quash them is to figure out what it is that attracts you to that person. putting a name to it almost always takes the edge off, and then you're free to appreciate the real relationship for what it is.

it's also so, so useful in finding out what you want from future relationships. and unless you have err, weird kinks you haven't told us about - those traits are pretty easy to find. for me, it would be - someone who is safe, who will listen to me/make me feel special, is committed to their job (i have no time for people who hate the job they're in), etc etc etc.

instead of making it this magical quality - break it down, and you'll have a lot more power.