[muffi]

i do think that women are more attractive than men although some men turn my head. with women i am more attracted to there niceness i dont feel that with men. i feel this mostly with mother figures a weird sexual/ nuturance but with men not at all. whats this about?

i am married to a man but sex is difficult for me, not all that attracted to me, no nuturance there and they just seem to take. i think with a woman i could experience her sexuality with men i want no parts in pleasing them or them pleasing me. i feel they are gross and there is no emotion with men.

muffi

[stormydaye]

I don't know your circumstances and whether or not you had some sort of SA previously but I can share my experiences...

I was raped when I was 17 and while I still am drawn to men, at least visually, I can't trust them and am not entirely comfortable being physical with them.

I do have my best friend who was there for me and I love her and there are times when I feel like I want to persue more of a physical and emotional attachment with her...

If you are married and you're not getting the kind of physical and emotional affection and feeling that kind of attachment with your husband, part of what you feel may be somewhat because you see that women are naturally more nurturing and giving, more caring and more in-tune with the things a woman wants and needs both emotionally and sexually...because they are women too.

If your husband is indifferent to your needs...it's time to have a serious talk...and if he is one who won't listen...then maybe you put down on paper how you're feeling and what you see the issues being and ask him to read it...then maybe work toward a solution together.

If it's impossible to do so...then maybe you need to reach deep down and decide if the marriage is really worth the sacrafice...if the answer is no, then make your way out.

Solace comes first within our own minds before it comes in the arms of another.

Hugs,
Stormy

[Rhapsody]

Originally Posted by muffi

whats this about?

Not knowing the story behind "why you feel as you do" - I will have to say that it sounds as though you have lost trust in men for some reason (maybe sexual abuse or an absent / abusive father, therefore, you are replacing female kindness with love and possibly with a deep rooted need for the parental safety you never receive as a child.

If I am wrong on that..... then please tell me about your Mother.