Nightmares (Trigger suicide)

Hi,
Have a replaying dream far far too much.. i'm falling off a building, and i grab the railing, but every time i fall, i grab it but dont quite hold on.. and, yeah.. its horrible.. I have suicideal feelings sometimes but this is really screwing with me.. aye.. any ideas as to why or how i can stop the stupid things ?

Hi,

sorry you are struggling with this dream. Obviously, I myself am not qualified to diagnose you or anything. But, I had a simmilar problem and my therapist told me to talk to someone about my dream before going to bed. Discuss how I felt in the dream, what I saw, what i think it might represent, what i could compare it to in my life. If i couldn't talk to someone I would write it down like a brain storm everything i could think of related to it. For example, my dream made me feel like something had changed, something important in my life had gone and i compared that to the loss of my father and the fear of losing my mother.

Often, working through our dreams when we are awake helps to stop them coming to you when you sleep.

You say you have suicidal feelings - would you say you are depressed? How long have you had these feelings? I would recommened trying to find a therapist - I think it could help you not just with suicidal thoughts but with your dreams, too. X

Yeah I see what you mean, some sound advice there ! I'm sorry for you loss.
Yes I've been diagnosed with major depression among other problems. And i've had these thoughts for over 10 years now.
Thanks for the advice again.

I have dreams of falling quite often, I have been told that it represents you feeling as if you are out of control in life

Oh, I guess that would match up mostly.. Thanks !

I hope you can get some help with the dreams, and depression, find some answers etc.. are you currently in T?

Yeah, well, it was all a bit skrewed up, so i'm looking for another one because the other one was very gammy and his results amounted to "your fine, there's nothing wrong with you". I felt like kicking him in the head.

Scary. I've had dreams of killing myself after harming someone else. Those are so scary and they tend to stick with you for a long time. I have violent dreams, that's pretty scary too, even if I'm not the one getting hurt.

I think the "falling" dream is quite a common theme though. I have experienced it myself. But you should bring it up to a T or pdoc if you're seeing one.

Could it be a dream about letting go of something and then that terrified feeling when we do let go of something and fall into the unknown? Doesn't make it less scarey og course.

Wendy

It could mean a loss of control in your life or feeling that things are out of your hands. It could represent fear by the location of your dream being on a building, there may be something in your subconcious that is distressing to you and causing you alot of fear. This isn't to be taken literally though, just some idea's of your dream.

aye true.. very valid points, thanks all =]

It's my experience that dream themes replay because there's something our insides are trying to tell us or something that needs fixing. Were your dream mine, I'd feel like something was out of control and I'll look at the day before the dream and see if I could see what might have upset me that day that I would dream that dream again, that night.

I use to have the recurring dream of cleaning up my apartment where I lived for 13 years in the 1970's and early 80's. There were often cockroaches in the dream (this was an inner City apartment) and they depressed the heck out of me and I didn't know why that should be after I awakened as I no longer lived in that apartment or had cockroaches. What was worse was dreaming I got everything all cleaned up and looking good and then waking up to find I was still a mess/hoarder, etc. And we're talking about this dream recurring through the 90's.

I went back to see the same therapist in the late 90's that I'd seen in the late 70's through mid-80's and she merely commented once that she thought it had to do with the time period that I lived in that apartment; whatever I had been "suffering" with then, I was now working on in the 90's so the dreams were trying to help me out in some way, bring deeper feelings and angst to my consciousness but before I had "words" to express them.

I finished therapy in 2005 and haven't had a dream about that apartment/cockroaches or anything like that for 6-8 years. I think sometimes the constancy of a bad dream situation is "good" because it keeps the situation in front of us and helps us want to work on feeling better/solving whatever the psychic problem may be. It's not fun while it's happening though!

But think about the dream rather than trying to "get rid of" it. Look over your day before the dream or what you were thinking about before you went to sleep, think about the symbolism, why a stair railing, etc. Stairs in dreams can mean going down to emotions/deep (cellar) feelings/libido, etc. or up to "intellect" (brains) if you're going to higher floors. If it's an outdoor stairway, what's the building like?

You could make stairs or railings "yours" and seek the dream. Going toward it instead of away from it, drawing it or otherwise working with it, sitting on steps to think or finding a good railing to slide down for fun :-) could reassure your inner self that "You" are working on it and not trying to ignore whatever it is that you're trying to tell yourself. That could help the dream not happen as much if you make an effort to tell it you're "listening"/trying to understand so it doesn't have to keep hitting you between the eyes with the dream. Maybe make a pact with the dream to think about it for 15 minutes first thing any morning after you have it, it could become a source of really good information telling you what's bothering you so you can work on fixing it.