[myoasis89]

I had a dream that me and my ex were in his car...I don't know where we were driving but it was on a cliff uphill...there were ashes coming down on the wind shield and we were being competeing over who had more ashes on their side of the window...mine were small pieces while he had larger pieces (weird I know) suddenly there was a down pour of ashes and he swevered...we couldn't see it but we knew we were in mid air falling over the ocean...and I woke up

can anyone interpret this?

[SunReach]

Oh my. Freud would have a field trip with this!
I think it's hard to offer any kind of interpretation without knowing any of the back story..So try analysing it in relation to what happened between you two? Perhaps the ash stands for something broken, or sth faulty about your relationship that couldn't be repaired, and you were trying to figure out who was to be blamed the most? But in the end it didn't matter? I'm talking off my head here, you're probably the best one to make sense of it!

[Perna]

Cars are about how we "move" through our world. Theoretically, it's best to be driving the car, not letting someone else drive it or being in the back seat, etc. :-)

The ex- and the ashes make sense if you think about it; the ashes of your time together, it's over. But sounds like you're still letting your time with him influence your moving forward in your own life? You're still trying to "prove" something (who has the most ashes, who got the better deal, is more at fault for the breakup?)? Maybe you've been wishing lately that you were still together or that you'd done something differently, etc.?

Bodies of water are usually "emotions"/consciousness so that you're over/falling into the ocean makes sense to me too.

[myoasis89]

wow thanks for the insight...I was always the one in the back seat...he was controlling everything...and we both argued over who got the better deal in the end...and I still allow him to influence me today...I keep thinking over and over whether he relaly did ahve feelings at the time for me...and he was a father figure to me...and a role model...I still have the things he gave me...and I cuddle with the teddy bear he gave me because it gives me a sense of security and a sense of being loved...he used to spray his cologne on it...and the smell made me feel safe

[Nupoet64]

Sounds like he is in control and there is conflict and you feel like it is all "uphill" meaning you really are having to work on it...there is danger that you are aware of but not heeding. It causes you to fall.
Maybe you are being pushed into something you are not ready for or not in agreement with. Maybe there are major red flags in the relationship/ or with him and you are conflicted...but you feel that he is in control.
Maybe you are just afraid of relationships?
I hope you figure it out and find a peaceful solution.
Something that gives YOU peace. Much support and safe hugs...