[haier]

I've been having a lot of weird dreams. My therapist did ask me about them but didn't say anything. But she asked me what were the dreams more of...fear or suffocation. What's the difference between the two?
I have a lot going on...past abuse and currently going through divorce after finding out my husband was having an affair.
I dream of being in water, pools, beach, lakes...i love the water and love to swim. Well these dreams...i swim really deep and suddenly either I'm stuck and can't swim up or something's holding me down. I am awakened by my inability to breathe. I'm litteraly suffocating and wake up gasping for air.
Fear dreams are dreams where there's a lot of violence and i fear for my safety. I've dreamt that my husband is going to kill me, of hearing sounds of hitting, punching, slapping in my home but the violence is not towards me it's usually towards a little girl who i don't know or someone else. I dreamt twice of an adolescent girl knocking on my door and asking for shelter i let her in and once she died on my bed and the other time in the bathtub...i am scared and fear wakes me up. I'm shaking, my heart beating fast, sweaty, heavy breathing...there's a lot more....i told my t about then but she just sat there thinking, once she said, "maybe" but then stopped. I think she doesn't think I'm ready to explore them yet because of everything going on...any ideas...maybe suggestions on how to not have these types of dreams. T suggested positive affirmative thoughts before going to bed and relaxation techniques, which I've tried but I'm still having these dreams.

[Thunder Bow]

No quick fix is available at this time. Only healing through much time in therapy will change those dreams. Do tell your therapist what your dreams have in them.

[haier]

Thunder Bow...I'm really scared that these dreams could actually mean something or be predicting something in my real life. Please let me know if these mean i will have future suffering or death. I might as well know so i can be prepared. So many things have happened this year, out of character and just not ordinary things that i would expect in my life. I am being told by friends and family that possibly somebody may be trying to harm me through other ways. I've been feeling very self destructive and this too is unusual for me. I just don't know, I've been in therapy for 8mo and don't know that I'm making any progress..i just don't know what to do anymore.

[Thunder Bow]

You dream shows deffinite progress. That is why all the conflict. As you go through therapy, you are going to have these kinds of dreams. Once old feelings and old self die away, you will enter into a New World. Thus this dream is telling you a new and beautiful world awaits you, after all the conflict ends. Also be aware that you may be recalling repressed memories from your early childhood. Work with your therapist on that topic.

[haier]

Thank you so much...i feel much better now. I appreciate you taking the time out to help me. Thank you.