[healingme4me]

Last nights, he was attacking me, called the cops, (in dream), was told to stop calling, by cops. Ex was laughing at me. Was told to stop being an embarrassment, to his employer(which is a big local business).

In dream, remember feelings of hopelessness, trapped, in danger, as though being followed around. That the only way, I'd be believed is if near death.

Couldn't get my phone working...

Not first dream of it's kind..

Is this working through trauma??
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[HealingNSuffering]

yes and you have been talking about it, which means it is on your mind, and since it is unpleasant, it is haunting your unconscious mind, because the trauma hasn't been fully processed, perhaps you still haven't forgiven this ex. I have this problem to. I find the best way to avoid traumatizing nightmares as such is to avoid discussing the trauma often.

[Thunder Bow]

In the dream you were feeling isolated and unable to make any connections. Feel free to reach out for help and support when dealing with past trauma

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by HealingNSuffering

yes and you have been talking about it, which means it is on your mind, and since it is unpleasant, it is haunting your unconscious mind, because the trauma hasn't been fully processed, perhaps you still haven't forgiven this ex. I have this problem to. I find the best way to avoid traumatizing nightmares as such is to avoid discussing the trauma often.

Thanks, the trauma, is pretty recent, however. Been on-going, there was a recent violation, of the restraining order, just last week...

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

In the dream you were feeling isolated and unable to make any connections. Feel free to reach out for help and support when dealing with past trauma

Thanks, I'll continue to work on this, in therapy, with both my talk therapist, and pdoc.

The trauma, has been, more on-going, since July/August. Sure, I've had past traumas, with him, but it's current trauma, not past.

Sorry you're going through this ...

It's important to discuss the dreams with your therapist as they also need to be processed along with any other trauma related issues that occur during waking ours.

I found the nightmares & night terrors I'd been having all throughout my childhood, adolescents and adulthood were a direct result of the abuse I'd been living in my whole life.

Once I created me a place of safety and started processing the abuse as well as the nightmares & night terrors with my therapist(s), it all started to get better ... And the bad dreams all but disappeared as well.

I also have found that forgiving our abusers is not necessary at all. Some things are simply unforgivable!

However, it is imperative that we eventually come to terms with what has happened and accept it for what it is so we can move forward and continue to heal.

[healingme4me]

Thanks I'll keep on processing. I've been working on dreams, much of my life. This past week, I've had about three, that have either woken me up, or like this morning, waking up, drenched in sweat. (night terror, I presume). Last week, was a new thing, added to my more recent list, and I don't speak with either therapist, until next month.

I'm going to ponder, the 'isolation/not making connections', aspect for a while, to take a closer look, at the feelings, I have been having.

The past several weeks, have been momentous, with numerous changes. I do, appreciate the feedback and insight

[Sabrina]

Virtually the same thing has been happening to me and I haven't seen my ex husband in almost 16 years. My dreams always involve him and my now husband and I am always with "him" but wanting to be with my husband. Fear and danger are right up there.

[healingme4me]

((((Sabrina))))

Fear/danger/isolation/cut off communication. .

I actually slept, much better, last night.

I have, to go to court, Friday, my ex, is bringing me, this time. Just found out, last week. The part of the paperwork, about a warrant for my arrest, if I don't show, combined with the emails from the intermediary for visitation, before she quit, combined with things, in the past my ex has said(near past, over last three years since divorce), combined with him showing up at kids school last week(violating restraining order again), I'm working through the intense feelings of isolation, I'd felt, until I opened up, to my sons' guidance counselor, last week. I opened up! My story, is known, instead of just a couple ppl, in my inner circle. People know, now.
I feel, I'm working through the emotions I'd been feeling, all these years, I've known him.
The dreams, these ones, started, after I told my story.

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