[Xander187]

i cant sleep at night because of the bad dreams please help

[Thunder Bow]

Tell us about the bad dreams?

[Xander187]

i will have dreams that i am being strangled by my mom or that somebody is in our house likd this dark figure i cant make out. or that im back in country and killing inocent people

[Thunder Bow]

Could be memories from past abuse, and the anger related to your abuse.

[Eyes of Blue]

All dreams are the result of our daily way of thinking. Just as you would find it difficult to sleep well if there were a war raging outside your home, when the psychological aspects of yourself are not at peace with the ideas you give yourself, you will not sleep well and have peaceful dreams.

Being strangled by Mom would indicate that your own inherited beliefs are working towards denying you access to greater intelligence. (strangling cuts off your air). The dark figure in the house can refer to ideas that are lacking in intelligence that have gained entry into your mind. (no light in them) Killing innocent people implies terminating ideas in which there is no malicious intent. [Do certain ideas that are really quite harmless conflict with what you were taught to believe?]

[Xander187]

i think they are caused from pain that i have had in the past. my mom isnt a big help in my life she was yelling at me to get off my *** and do stuf myself when i just got out of surgery. and she constantly puts me down. i think the fighting is from the past my training is to react without thinking. and the killing is from something that happened overseas that i relive in my dreams. these are all thinks that subcouncely are thinking about. and i have a horrible support system in place. my family all shun me because im diffrent and have mental problems. i cant make friends becuase they all make me mad becuase they are civilian and do not act they way a responsible person would act. and just little thinks piss me off like people being late or blowing me off my mom is constantly 10 minutes late for everything and you should be 15 minutes early to everything. you shouldnt make people wait on you. you should be the one waiting on other people. and i had a horrible past ever since 2009 i am a totatly diffrent person. i have had two tbi's since then and i have problems rememberin things which people dont believe they just think that i am forgeting about what they are saying. it pisses me off because i hostely can not remember. i have two years of college and im not an idiot but i had to stop because i could not remember things.

[Thunder Bow]

It is no wonder you have bad dreams. Best to see a Therapist about your family trouble. That is the only way to get out of those bad dreams.

[Xander187]

do you recomend therepy from a counciler or phycoligist? and should it just be thereapy for just me or for me and my mom and dad? because at this point i wil do anything to be able to get a good nights sleep. i use to sleep like a baby not even waking up at all threw the night even when i was in afghan i would sleep like a baby. i will do anything to get that back.

[Thunder Bow]

Just for you only. If you are living with your parents, move out, that will help the best. By Being on your own you will sleep much better. Seek the kind of Therapist that you feel most comfortable with.

[Xander187]

i really wish i could move out. but i do not have an income or driver license and seems like its so hard to get a job.i know that if i live on my own i will be happier. my parents just split up this year and my dad is an ***. i just recently had major surgery they said if i waited a day or two more to go to the er then i would have been dead well my dad calls my mom and says im faking it and i dont need all the care that i got and dont need to be on pain killers. i mean what a jerk. even when i was in the hospital he came and saw me once and he turned the heater on in my room changed the channel and ate my dinner. and never asked to do any of that. when i got out he never came to see me never called to ask how i am or anything and i am in more pain now due to my nerves growing back because they took out a chunk of my arm. well my mom says i am doping it to myself because im not goping to physical therepy and that the doctors are wrong. i have been threw emt and lot of medical training i think i know more than she does about what is going on.

[Thunder Bow]

With you last post I can see why you got bad dreams. Parents and your growing up with them, are the root cause here. Seek a Therapist if you can. Work on moving out. It may take some time. but you will feel much better. Be resourceful.

[fasmst]

i am having bad dreams about my father who passed in october... i dont know why.