I just had a dream about my ex being in a party store that I was in, I had a friend of mine with me and I looked over and seen my ex and he was with some woman, I was always jealous of him because he always cheated on me and he was very abusive, Any way I took what ever she was buying and threw it on the ground to pick up, She wanted to fight me and had boxing gloves on and I kept trying to get them off but they would not come off, They were wrapped up with some rope, I called out for my friends help but I was not getting any help, My ex was just standing there not saying any thing and this woman had a smile on her face, All of a sudden I woke up because I screamed out loud as loud as I could in real life not in the dream his name and calling him a mother f, I won't say the whole word, I do this slot screaming something out loud if I have a bad dream, Is this a night terror or a flash back, I am getting them more and more

[phoenix7]

your brain is trying to get you to deal with the issues from your past - just my opinion - until you deal with them either in therapy or talking them out with friends - here or where you feel comfortable they will come back -

I compare it to this -

the universe says I want you to deal with this and it nudges you
you take no notice push it away
the universe gives you a harder nudge
you ignore it - hey universe whats it to you anyway !
so the universe gives you a shove!
(ignore me now says the universe lol )
and so on until you end up on the floor from a giant shove if you keep ignoring the "elephant in the room"

he cheated on you - you know that is a character flaw in him and NOT your fault
wondering about his GF is normal - is she better than me - worse ? why her and not me?

Abusive people tear our souls - it takes time to heal - they take away our self confidence - our self worth -

its like a wrestling match against yourself

please keep reaching out in whatever way you need to and set the past to rest. I am trying hard to set my past to rest - I wish you lots of success

P7 (hugs if ok)

The strange thing my ex passed away back in 2009 from a alcohol and heroin over dose and I am still dreaming about him, He is not even alive any more but he did cheat on me many times and yes I did always wonder what these women had that I did not, He was also emotionally and physically abusive, He was also a crack addict, And stold all my money and everything

[phoenix7]

I expect it was not what they had that you didn't - but the chase and the capture for him - especially if he was abusive -

I am really glad you are away from him and even though he is gone and sometimes even more so because someone is gone - you need to address these issues

maybe keep a notebook by your bed an when you wake write it down - the dream - then in the morning ask yourself what triggered this ? what am I trying to learn - alternatively just say its a dream - I need to release it and tell it it has no power over me anymore

sending mang good vibes your way

P7