[Rayofsunshine]

Hey guys I welcomed myself few weeks ago and I have finally got to courage to actually write something on a specific topic!!!

I hope I'm not being too forward with this but I am suffering with sleep masturbation and I have for a few years now, I have spoke to my doctor and i have spoke to a counsellor type person and I am now taking antidepressants to try and control my stress and anxiety.

I am open to talking about it and would really like any advice or help that anybody can give xx

it's great you're being open!. (and no, you're not being too forward at all!). that's what this forum is for, to discuss our feelings and get support for them.

personally i don't have any experience with this. but wanted to respond to reasure you that someone not only read the topic, but you didn't do anything wrong

welcome

[Rayofsunshine]

Thank you x

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[Artchic528]

I believe I have done this at least once, possibly more. I remember dreaming about masturbating one time and it felt so real, so I must have been doing it in my sleep somehow. It was kind of embarrassing to be honest.

I try and control it by masturbating while awake at least once every couple of days, usually a couple times a day at most. This helps a lot.

[black-roses]

I have never done but one time I woke up orgasming I guess I must have had a sleep sex dream and orgasmic in it. To be honest your story reminds me of a documentary I watched about sexinsomnia it is about people who have sex in their sleep and they don't even know that there doing it. It was quite baffling to me how someone could be asleep and manage to find someone and bone them and then have no memory of it. If I were you I'd talk to a doctor, a psychologist or even a neurologist to find out how this has been happening. Nothing to be ashamed of and I don't want to come across that I am trying to punish you for something you have no control of but knowing why or how it happens might help your anxiety around it.

[Thunder Bow]

"Wet Dreams" are normal.

[Nimportequoi]

I just googled that and learned about Sexsomnia. Fascinating! O.O

[Rayofsunshine]

Thankfully I don't go any further than masturbation as I find what I do to be uncomfortable and I am very ashamed of it, I have been to the doctors, a therapist and I am currently taking anti-depressents as my partner and I first put what I do down to me being stressed all the time!! To make matters worse my partner also believes I am wake when doing so which causes us to argue and me to me stressed and sometimes I can be anxious about going to sleep next to him when he is home

Thanks for replying guys xx

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[likewater]

Originally Posted by Artchic528

I believe I have done this at least once, possibly more. I remember dreaming about masturbating one time and it felt so real, so I must have been doing it in my sleep somehow. It was kind of embarrassing to be honest.

I try and control it by masturbating while awake at least once every couple of days, usually a couple times a day at most. This helps a lot.

I dream about it and it's very real, but I wake up and realize I didn't really masturbate. Just bcuz it feels real doesn't mean it is.

[Shoe]

Was it occurring before you started taking anti-depressants ? I am pretty med free besides this blood pressure medication I have been taking for around 20 years. A couple of months ago I went to the doctor about this arthritic shoulder pain and he prescribed Gabapentin. I used to just take one about an hour before bed. A couple of weeks ago my wife said that I woke up a couple of times about an hour after I feel asleep and said things to her like I didn't know who she was. I guess it was sort of like sleep walking but I stayed in bed and can't recall any of it in the morning after she told me about it. I stop taking that med and haven't experienced anything like that since.
I have read before that when we dream we have an increased blood flow to our groin area. I also read before that dreams are a discharge of excess libido. Some people can be hypersexual and some people just the opposite.
Something to ponder.
Having sex with my wife helps both of our stress levels but then we are just a couple of Bonobos.

QUOTE=Rayofsunshine;5064605]Thankfully I don't go any further than masturbation as I find what I do to be uncomfortable and I am very ashamed of it, I have been to the doctors, a therapist and I am currently taking anti-depressents as my partner and I first put what I do down to me being stressed all the time!! To make matters worse my partner also believes I am wake when doing so which causes us to argue and me to me stressed and sometimes I can be anxious about going to sleep next to him when he is home

Thanks for replying guys xx

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[Rayofsunshine]

Originally Posted by likewater

I dream about it and it's very real, but I wake up and realize I didn't really masturbate. Just bcuz it feels real doesn't mean it is.

My boyfriend witnesses me doing this in my sleep !! And has done for a while now

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[Rayofsunshine]

I'm taking the medication to try reduce my stress levels which may lead to us seeing a difference in my sleep masturbation!! I've never been on medication before apart from the everyday type of tablets (paracetamol,Ibuprofen)

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[highnrg1]

I did not have this problem when I was married. I have been divorced for over two years (and separated for almost 3 years before that). But over the past several months, I have been waking up in the middle of the night so aroused and I need to masturbate (at least once a night). Then I awake every morning aroused and usually masturbate again. I have no idea why this is happening. I do not sleep through it, as you seem to describe. So I imagine this must be challenging. I, like you. often feel guilty afterward. I am having extremely explicit sexual dreams, only some of which I can remember. I have never been abused or had any trauma sexually. I go back and forth between just loving being so horny and enjoying exploring my body to feeling very guilty, like "I shouldn't be doing this" and certainly not that often. Maybe I need some counseling, but part of me loves the thrill of being so aroused and pleasuring myself and I am not sure I want to give it up. For the most part, this does not seem to be interfering with my life, but since you are in a relationship, I can see that would be much more challenging. I wish you luck. Keep posting and let us know if you find anything that helps.

[Rayofsunshine]

Was back at the doctors today to talk about my antidepressants and to see if there helping me in any way but in regards to the orginal reason I began taking them I don't really see a change as I have no1 that witnesses what I do as my partner is away for months at a time but I have now realised that they help me a lot to cope with general life stresses which I have struggled with for many years now.

Just an update really guys, I've enjoyed reading back on all the comments too ☺

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