[davidanswers]

I was not on good relations with my father. My father passed away couple of years ago and we were not on good terms. He died and I was angry of him.
After his death, I found out that my mother was behind all the hostility and problems in the family home and I had issues with her while I took care of everything after my father died. I could not sleep well or think straight, I gained lots of weight as I did not know what to do. Finally, I found what I need to do and I am doing it right now.

I am angry at myself that I was blind to those problems and that I did not give the respect to my father that he rightly deserves. This is killing me from the inside.

The issue is one night, I dreamt that I was in a room and I saw my father, then my father came to me and he shook my hand.

What does this mean? Is it my subconscious trying to make me feel better?

I hope someone can give some insight into this. It is really important for me.
thanks,

[Skeezyks]

I'm sorry I cannot be of much help with this. I don't really know anything about dream interpretation. Perhaps some other members who are knowledgeable will yet see your post & reply. In the meantime, here are links to some articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of dream interpretation. Hopefully they can be of some help:

How to Analyze Your Dreams (And Why It's Important)

Uncovering Your Dreams: 12 Universal Themes

Interpret Your Own Dreams - Some Guidelines | Healing Together for Couples

Dreams: Your Inner Guidance

[Thunder Bow]

In the dream, he may be an important part of yourself. You have matured in life.

[davidanswers]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

In the dream, he may be an important part of yourself. You have matured in life.

Thanks for your answer, I think I understand what you mean.

I am not an expert but my thinking is that my subconscious is doing this to make myself feel better, that my father shook my hand as if he has forgiven me for my mistakes towards him. this is my thinking but I like to know if I am right or there is something else.

[Thunder Bow]

You have forgiven yourself for your past mistakes. The Father in your dream is your mature self.

[davidanswers]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

You have forgiven yourself for your past mistakes. The Father in your dream is your mature self.

There are several types of mistakes in life: ones that can be fixed and ones that can not ever be fixed, example: you hit other car, you can fix both cars and even make them better, but run down someone and dies, you can never ever bring that person back to life,
My mistake is the second one, I will never ever be able to apologise to my father for my mistakes, and he has passed away. It is killing me from inside and the thing that helps me is knowing that I was misinformed about my father from when I was a child, and I grew up that way, I only found out is after his death when things started to show. I know for sure my father knew this and he had his pride to let me find out this way, not by influencing me (which I wish he had) but now it is too late. This is a mistake that I can not ever fix no matter what I can do.
Thanks for your comments, I appreciate it.

[Thunder Bow]

You will have to tell me the details of that accident. There are many factors that are at play.

[davidanswers]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

You will have to tell me the details of that accident. There are many factors that are at play.

It is not just one mistake or accident, it was a life time behavior. My mother was bad influence that she bad mouthed my father and put the hate towards him ever since we were children. I have a post called "Has she lost her mental capacity? Urgent advice needed. Thanks" in Health & Other Support - Partners of People and Caregivers Support section, there are other factors not included in the post which takes a life time to write. I hope that can give you an idea of what I mean. The issue is that I never got along with my dad and he was always fair and provided the important things in life for me to become a professional with good qualification and never ever had a problem with the law. It may seem not that important to who reads this but my dad did sacrifice his life for his children, he could easily left my mom and us but he did not. After his death, I found out the truth, I can say the hard way, and now I am not able to apologize to him. He is dead. He did not deserve the way the whole family treated him, he deserved a lot lot better. I can not do anything now to fix or amend the wrongs and that is what is keeping me sleepless at night ( I wake up 2 or 3 times a night) and it has really affected me in that I can not concentrate at work, I do stupid mistakes for someone with my qualifications and experience. But now I know what needs to be done, it is not revenge at all, but fighting for my rights and to raise my father 's name and honor. It maybe hard for anyone to know what I mean as I can not write the whole story here. But what I was interested in knowing what my dream meant, I think, as mentioned before, it is my subconscious acting up to make myself feel better. I thought to write it to see if my explanation was correct. Sorry for the long post but I hope it helps to clear up. Thank you for your time and effort.

[Thunder Bow]

The dream shows that your Father Honors you for seeing him as a human being. You have done great work for yourself in seeing this. You are not trapped in the Negative thoughts that your Mother has about him. You are seeing things for yourself now.

[davidanswers]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

The dream shows that your Father Honors you for seeing him as a human being. You have done great work for yourself in seeing this. You are not trapped in the Negative thoughts that your Mother has about him. You are seeing things for yourself now.

thanks for your comments and time in replying, I appreciate it.

[KruChris]

Originally Posted by davidanswers

I was not on good relations with my father. My father passed away couple of years ago and we were not on good terms. He died and I was angry of him.
After his death, I found out that my mother was behind all the hostility and problems in the family home and I had issues with her while I took care of everything after my father died. I could not sleep well or think straight, I gained lots of weight as I did not know what to do. Finally, I found what I need to do and I am doing it right now.

I am angry at myself that I was blind to those problems and that I did not give the respect to my father that he rightly deserves. This is killing me from the inside.

The issue is one night, I dreamt that I was in a room and I saw my father, then my father came to me and he shook my hand.

What does this mean? Is it my subconscious trying to make me feel better?

I hope someone can give some insight into this. It is really important for me.
thanks,

Without having an answer, I do believe that we care for parents on a very deep level, no matter what. Unconditionally. The arguments, petty stuff is just n o i s e on the surface.

Your mother, what has she been doing? Saw hatred?

[davidanswers]

Originally Posted by KruChris

Without having an answer, I do believe that we care for parents on a very deep level, no matter what. Unconditionally. The arguments, petty stuff is just n o i s e on the surface.

Your mother, what has she been doing? Saw hatred?

I have a post called "Has she lost her mental capacity? Urgent advice needed. Thanks" in Health & Other Support - Partners of People and Caregivers Support section, I have written this in other reply, it could be you did not read all the comments, if you read my other post, it should give you some idea about what I am talking about.
Cheers,