I need to vent...Me and Mom.

I have to vent about this, I"m sorry, I just need to

I usually like me, except for my looks, yes it's superfical but I am shy and if a man compliments me or tells me I am pretty I automatically think he is just being kind or is trying to lull me into a false sense of security so he can use me.

I think part of the reason I am so insecure in myself is well my mom, everything I turn around she is telling me I need to loose weight, that my clothes don't' look right on me, that everything I wear is unflattering, and no she is not trying to be helpful because I will turn around and ask my friends for the truth, and they say they don't' understand why she is hateful to me like that I look fine.

Yes I"m a bigger gal, it's the way I"m built, yes I could stand to loose a few pounds, but if I loose weight I want to do for my health not for superficial reasons, I want to loose weight so I can be more flexible in yoga, so when I go hiking I don't tire out as easily, I"m a very active person.

I get tired of being told by my mom I"m not good enough, that everything I do is wrong, it takes a blow at my self esteem when that is all I hear day in and day out...

I wish I knew how to block her out, make all the nagging comments leave my mind every time I look in the mirror...

My step-sister's mom, and some of my friend's mom's are like that. For one reason or another they want to tear down their daughters... like little kids they use that to make them feel better. I'd suggest for your own mental health to not stick around her.

Hi Silver! When mothers do this it is more about them than about their daughters. Do her complaints overlap with her own insecurities?