[anthony81]

I've been posting a few times in this site and gotten some good advice.

I think a major root cause of my problems is Confidence. I a guy that is so thin and out-of-shape that I look bone-thin anorexic, and cant seem to put on weight no matter what I try. That was the case since I was a teenager.

So as you can imagine I was always picked on for being anorexic even though Im not, always stared at with 'looks', and dismissed by most girls that I liked.

I catch cold easily and get sick alot in the winter. I also therefore lack stamina and cannot keep a job that requires any amount of energy.

Even when Im talking I sound withdrawn and low-key, and people dont hear me. As I've posted earlier, I've even questioned my own sexuality and whether I was gay or not.. even though I only like girls.

SO HOW CAN I ACHIEVE THE ALPHA-MALE CONFIDENCE I NEED? WHAT STEPS CAN I TAKE TO CHANGE MY LIFE?

So far, weights have not made a difference. eating more has not worked except to give me a beer belly with thin arms. haha.

I want to be able to speak with authority and presence, to take up space and really be noticed by girls and potential friends.

[CloudyDay99]

Hi anthony81,

Practice helps build self confidence. I would suggest taking some public speaking classes, trying improve, or a group like ToastMasters.

[willmarcus]

Confidence is all about how you feel about yourself and how much you believe in yourself. Here's an article that really helped me building my confidence.

http://formulaforawesome.com/ways-to...id-confidence/

[Nape]

If you really want to change yourself so you will feel better about your appearance... all you need to do is eat healthy (give up the fatty/sugary/salty/junk/fast foods and eat a well-balanced diet) , try to start doing exercises and your body will change although this'll take time. Weight isn't important , your health is. Last time I tried to gain weight just to look more fat (bcuz I was so thin) by eating donuts and unhealthy stuffs but I didn't feel it but during the time I increased intake of healthy carb-rich (don't go overboard) foods , I gained 5 kilos in 2 months. Pretty great but I know you could do it. I was also a soft-speaker back then but as time progresses I was changing and eventually became better at speeches but I feel I need to improve but my performance was alright. It would just take time!

[James0805]

My boss told me I always doubt myself. I used to speak very low in my teens but I fell out of it. That will probably happen for you too. I understand about confidence problems. I have had it my whole life and now I'm in my early 40's. I wish you well.