[rise__above]

Hi, remember me? The person who had deep self loathing issues? I never thought my hate towards myself would ever go away.

But I have seen a lot of improvement in the past couple of weeks. I have been 'faking' confidence. Which has actually given me some real confidence. I don't necessarily love myself, but I have much less negative thoughts, I am...neutral. But I pretend to like myself a lot around friends.

I have noticed, though, that I seem to be projecting my hate onto others now. I don't hate myself as much, but I still get extremely jealous of other people. I have a few people I know who I truly hate because I am jealous of them. My partner has explained why my hate is useless and only harmful to myself, but I can't control it.

Other than that, I am happy with my progress.

[A Red Panda]

Yay for some confidence!

Why not try channelling that hate into motivation? What about each of those people do you envy?

Someone's super attractive? What makes them seem attractive to you? Try to pick out something about them that you can work towards yourself.

Someone's really popular? What makes them popular? Try to focus on something about them that you have in common - and then work towards showing that part of you more often!

Someone's really fit? Then pick something and work at it yourself

But don't turn it into a competition. You're you, and they're them. Every single person we meet will be better than us at something or another... but it's also equally true that everyone we meet is WORSE at something than we are... you just need to figure out the things that are your strengths and work to accentuate those

[rise__above]

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

Yay for some confidence!

Why not try channelling that hate into motivation? What about each of those people do you envy?

Someone's super attractive? What makes them seem attractive to you? Try to pick out something about them that you can work towards yourself.

Someone's really popular? What makes them popular? Try to focus on something about them that you have in common - and then work towards showing that part of you more often!

Someone's really fit? Then pick something and work at it yourself

But don't turn it into a competition. You're you, and they're them. Every single person we meet will be better than us at something or another... but it's also equally true that everyone we meet is WORSE at something than we are... you just need to figure out the things that are your strengths and work to accentuate those

Thank you for the advice! I can't help but feel its wrong to say: well they're worse at X than me. Because isn't that giving me a false confidence boost?

Nonetheless, I'll try what you said. It's hard because this one person I'm jealous of looks nothing like me...I can't do anything to look like them. Or be like them.