[smmath]

the best:
"out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls, the most massive characters are seared with scars." Khalil Gibran

worst:
"you don't have to be perfect." or "no one is perfect." i know but it doesn't matter so long as someone SEEMS perfect. this hackneyed phrase doesn't help especially when coming from someone that is or seems to be perfect.

--Sam

[Travelinglady]

"You are resilient and have been working hard on your issues. You certainly can feel proud of yourself."

sypnosis of what several therapists have said to me

"You are a terrible daughter. I am thinking about leaving you out of my will."

general thoughts my mother indicates to me every so often

[Jan1212]

Haunting: "You will never be what you want to be"

the best: just a genuine, "I love you" It lets me know I am cared for, it reminds me that I am somebody, and those little insignificant bumps in life will never change who I am

[JadeAmethyst]

feed the wolf of love not the wolf of hate

"what's wrong with you?"

[Mara Mountain]

worst-what a waste huh?-dad
best-I will never ever leave you!-my friend's 10 year old daughter =)

[cool09]

I have a whole list which I don't want to print. Majority of them are from co-workers and supervisors.

I had one higher up Chief tell me "Good job" on a paper (permit) I finished when I worked for NJ Environmental Protection Agency in 1991. That felt fantastic. Nothing like that has ever happened again (and probably never will).

Best: "Even when she thinks she's building you up, she's tearing you down." Said by my therapist, about my mother. This affirmed for me that I was not, in fact, simply twisting her words around and choosing to interpret them negatively, like she and other family members told me I was doing. She actually was putting subtle insults in there, and then denying it.

Worst: I can think of a few, all said by my mother, but I'm not sure I should list them. They might trigger somebody.

[Silver_Lining]

[quote=Lovebird;2971406]Best: "Even when she thinks she's building you up, she's tearing you down." Said by my therapist, about my mother. This affirmed for me that I was not, in fact, simply twisting her words around and choosing to interpret them negatively, like she and other family members told me I was doing. She actually was putting subtle insults in there, and then denying it.[quote]

This sounds so like my mother... she can say something but underneath her words she is cutting me off at the knees. I always wonder "is it just me" and I'm twisting her words. Thanks for posting this.

Originally Posted by smmath

the best:
"out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls, the most massive characters are seared with scars." Khalil Gibran

worst:
"you don't have to be perfect." or "no one is perfect." i know but it doesn't matter so long as someone SEEMS perfect. this hackneyed phrase doesn't help especially when coming from someone that is or seems to be perfect.

--Sam

I can't remember a time where someone said something good about me, but I can remember 2 terrible things:
1. "I can't wait until you move out, that will be the 2nd best day of my life, next to the day you die!"

2. "No one likes a pathetic a--hole like yourself."

[roseblossom]

I felt really hurt by this remark from a friend, who's actually someone I've respected and turned to quite a lot (but not so much since she said it1) - 'if you want to get married (in the future), you've got to have something to offer someone'

more positively from my voluntary manager 'you've got a lot of empathy and understanding'

[bubbleghost]

My older sister recently said I was probably the "coolest" person she knew. Also wrote a very sweet paragraph about me specifically in the acknowledgments of her PhD thesis. All of which felt rather strange and made me realize how differently she sees the world.

Of course, one of the most damaging things said to me was by her when we were much younger. She constantly put down and declared stupid anything I liked or was interested in. So I learned that whatever I'm interested in is probably stupid and embarrassing and I shouldn't talk about it. (I recently gave her a cd of a musician that's been at the top of my playlists for years and years, and loved it and asked why I'd never mentioned them before. Uh... because 15 years ago you told me to shut up and I took it to heart.)

[brokenwings75]

"When I first met you I didn't really like you. but I decided to give you a chance But now you seem disgusting to me". This was said to me by the boyfriend of a narcisssistic friend I had that I decided to cut communication off with.

The best thing someone told me was that I was deserving of love first and foremost from myself and then from others.

[eggsinfinitum]

worst, from my mother, following me in her wheelchair: Spreading her arms wide, she said, "Your [bottom] is THIS BIG."

best, when my grown daughter says she knows I did what was best for her in difficult circumstances while she was growing up.

[A Red Panda]

Worst: being called all sorts of names by my brother and mom.

Best: the comments I get about how my students know I care about them... and how I've made really good connections with them.

[Blubberman]

The best:
You can only stay strong and let those idiots fall, you shouldn't be annoyed by what they want you to hear
-My Grandmother <3

The worst:
You know what? You fear too much to be wrong, you feel like you must always be right. And you can't. Can't you?
-One teacher (I know it's an advice, but I was about to tell him I was sorry about something and he just said that, even though I appreciated his classes a lot)

[LadyShadow]

The best:
"Will you marry me" - my first boyfriend who made me feel special enough to want to spend the rest of his life with me.

The worst:
"I love you but I'm not IN love with you" - piece of crap ex-boyfriend who made me feel terrible about myself who I tried to kill myself over.

[Gus1234U]

the Best: pay no attention to what other people think, just do your best.

the Worst: Trust ME~!

[-jimi-]

I probably have many but I also have a terrible memory. So;

Best: You're the most intelligent person I've met

Worst: Doesn't matter how you are compared to others, you're the BEST at being JIMI.

When my husband and I first got engaged, he promised me: "The second half of your life will make up for the first." He has done his best to make good on that promise.

[bronzeowl]

Best: (said to me by a cousin - when we were arguing even) I can tell you are very intelligent and wise beyond your years.

Worst: (words aren't exactly right - this was many years ago. said by my then "best" friend) I never liked you, no one does. Everyone only pretends to.

I'm sure there are a few more "worse" worsts. But my childhood is a blur heh.

Best - a friend of mine messaged this to me when I expressed my concerns and stress about study and life in general in terms of not being good enough and not being smart enough. She's helped me a lot lately.
"Ok, so you're not Sheldon Cooper or Bill Gates. Me either. And even if algebra isn't your thing, it doesn't mean ur not smart. Creative writing is a strength, but not your only ability. And I believe you're well capable of learning a plethora of of other skills and information and proving whoever you want wrong, including yourself."

Worst - this was also told to me by a friend...or should I say ex friend. I had a hard time deciding between this and all the different bad things this person has said in the past
"That's right doing something would require effort and determination both of which you lack"

[growlithing]

Best- just stuff my teachers have told me about my music

Worst- "you're such a pain, sometimes I wish I never had you"- my mom

[MzSchell]

Worst: "it's all in your head" and "you know what you're doing wrong?" and "has he actually seen you?" (general rantings from my mother)

Best: "You are truly a beautiful person - very talented and I don't know where I would be without you." (from my co-worker / now best friend)

[gracez]

best - i love you
you have too many good qualities I can't count them

worst - you failed, and if I were there (instead of you) I would've...(done a great job)
never tell me again if you're sick or need something - mom

[Tulela]

The worst: When people tell me that they sense nothing special in me and I don't have any kind of charisma. The worst about this is that I've heard it so many times in my life. It's a recurring thing and I hate to hear it over and over again. I feel that this charisma thing is something I cannot properly control, no matter how hard I try.

The best: I rarely hear good things about me from others and nothing like that comes to my mind for now. Maybe I'll get back to this later.

Oh, I've got one: it's not a big deal, but I like it when native English speakers compliment on my English. Many of them ask me whether I lived abroad for a longer period of time or something (I didn't).