the best and worst thing somene said/told you

The worst: you were a mistake when you were born.
who would want to marry you?

These two people are the worst that i've ever had to deal with. the latter was said by my fifth grade teacher. i wanted to say to him that since you're married, why don't you have kids? why, is it because you can't stand them? I hope your wife will remain barren for the rest of her life.
As for the sunday school teacher who told me that I was a mistake and the other girls were laughing, I just wanted to punch him in the nose and hurt him so bad.

worst: "I predict that you will end up alone just like your mother." - stepmom, who my dad cheated on my mom with and effectively ended their marriage. thx.
"I hate you right now." - mom

I can't remember any good things right now.

Best: "you are awesome" ~my pilates instructor
Worst: "you are not welcome in my house anymore" ~ my father said this to me at age 19. My offense was failing to promptly return $10 I had borrowed to put gas in my car so I could go to my job. The house he was referring to had been my longtime childhood home. It always did feel like his house anyway - never my home.

Worst: years ago, I'd just split up with my ex and my confidence was at an all-time low. At some party, someone mentioned a local musician - and I explained that was my ex. Oh, I thought his girlfriend was really pretty! Guess he's not dating that girl in his band. Guess I'm not pretty, then. It was just some random idiot but it hit me hard at the time.

Best: I have nothing but respect for you. My husband, on the subject of me going to therapy to deal with my stuff

Best: "You give me hope."

*melt*

Worst: Your a fat f*** who cant do anything - Dad

Best: Nothing in here

The Best: I'm in love with you, i always have been I just never felt good enough for you.

The Worst: I'm sorting through my relationships the meaningful from the meaningless, you didn't make the cut.

They came form the same person!

how sad!

I hope somebody else will say the former one, and nobody else will say the latter one to you.

The Worst-You would be cute if you lost more weight. -Former Friend

Okay can I just say I wanted to cry as much as I wanted to punch her in the face?

The Best-I plan to be with you for a long time and I will work to keep you. :] -Current Boyfriend

"I will WORK to keep you" is outstanding! Here, the real interest and good intentions. Good for you for snatching such a great specimen!

On the former friend - when you wanted to punch her in the face, you wanted to pay back for the words that offended you. The desire to pay back is normal and understandable, but you cannot pay back for what she said with a punch in the face. One pays back with retorts that are effective.

An effective retort for your situation would have been:

"You would be a nice person if you lost all your mean and unkind traits."

There are alternative retorts that could have been effective, too - this is just one idea.

Or tell the friend how much a statement like that hurts you.....A true friend would then apologize. (Or be defensive?) I am not much for returning comments with equally cutting remarks, but maybe that's just me.

Best thing: "You are my BFF." and many more....., I am happy to say.

Worst thing: "You are more messed up than I even first thought you were!" (or words to that effect, said by a former friend).

I can tell you why I recommended a cutting remark - to me, a true friend would not have produced the original, offensive remark in the first place; as a non-true friend, she deserved a cutting remark back.

I do however agree with you that with truly true friends, exposing one's vulnerabilities and talking freely about one's feelings (which is what you are recommending when you suggest talking about how that statement hurts) are the way to go.

So we are both agreeing and disagreeing at the same time.

Best - I love you so much. You're like a dream come true - my wife

Worst - you're ****ing pathetic - my mother

Best: I am so proud of you mommy ..... my eldest daughter, a few months ago

Worst: At least you picked someone with Health Insurance this time...... my f'n mother about my 2nd husband.

okay... that is NOT the worst, but for sake of other's on here... I will use that.

no, it is not the worst. It might have actually be said in good humor. Can't tell much without enough context.

She was being a b i t c h ......

that explains it! with sympathy...

Worst; I don't know how I got stuck with you as a grandchild. You've failed at everything. And you hate me because I am brave enough to be honest with you. - my grandmother

Best: Go out and change the world as you were, as you want, my Grey. - my mom

Everyone dies.

I think this qualifies as one of the BEST things: it is a very important reminder that we all have one life to live.

worst- my "friends" fighting next to me as none wanted to sit beside me in the roller coaster ride on a school trip, as that would imply to the rest that they liked me as a friend...

this is just one incident... i've developed such social anxiety due to rejection by peers in my school, which was 7 years ago, but still haunts me... and the worst is i still have no idea why... i am a decent person to look at(which i have learned to believe thanks to my only current friend), i cared and thought well of others always, never *****ed about anyone, the only thing i can think of is i wasn't allowed to go out and meet school friends outside of school hours if there were boys there, kinda orthodox parents, which made me very self conscious when i did talk to them... so my best guess has been i maybe wasn't "cool" enough...

best: i just wanted to say you have a lovely smile, it has brightened up my day!
(by an old lady on the street while i was walking, whom i just happened to give a friendly smile)...
and this meant a lot as when in school i had been told repeatedly by one of the same "friends" that i should smile less, it makes my face look ugly

Best one (yet): "You do - even if you fail, you do." A college professor reproached my complaint. I felt he meant that the process is what matters instead of the high expectations of getting an A. I knew this, but I really needed to hear this from somebody else.

Worse: "Y'know ya manipulate everyone." <-- Ouch. My close friend from high school just had to break it to me. I replied to him that I didn't do it willingly. But that only made it worse.

Best: "so-o-oh sexy..." - I used o-o-oh and an ellipsis (triple dots) trying to relate the feeling, the "intonation of the breath" if I may call it so, and the seriousness and even deep, dark sadness, without any shade of flirtatiousness, with which this was said. By the man who, in the final accounting, was/is the strongest attraction of the first half of my life; we will see what the second part has in store for me. Oh, and also - it was said over the phone in 2013 and I last saw the man in 1997...

Worst: "A personality disorder diagnosis cannot be given to you because you are not even a person. You are a hideous creature with tits." - ex 2nd H. And, he said it in a language in which the word "creature" is Neutral (neither Masculine nor Feminine, but Neutral/genderless - I know for people who only speak english it is weird, but many other languages have genders not just for pronouns such as "he" or "she", but also for nouns and adjectives).

Best: "I do." (My wife at our wedding.)

Worst: "You have to be the ugliest person I've ever seen."