Advice?

Someone on this sight convinced me to sing. I really wanted to try because I like to play the flute and I love music. Music is my everything.But how do I start? My twin sister will laugh at me I just know it. We have a tense relationship. She is taller and prettier, more popular, more outgoing and more. She is my own personal bully that loves to point out all of my many flaws and is always around. I can't try to sing with her around. I know this seems like a very small issue but I really need some advice. I am also afraid of embarrassing myself and failing. I don't think I can deal with anymore failure in my life but I really want to try to sing.
Advice?

you have to sing for yourself and not worry about what your sister thinks. start by singing when she is not around. take every opportunity to sing without her to build up your confidence in your signing ability. once you feel good about it, you wont care so much about what she thinks. take care.

Can your twin sister sing better than you and play the flute as well?

Who is to say she's prettier either? That's completely subjective. A lot of the famous women that guys go crazy over I think are completely unattractive.

Just remember she is doing all this making fun and bulling to feel better about herself, she is using you to fight her own insecurities. Let me tell you, i've known some beautiful women in my time and most of them are way more insecure than your "average" girl (by society's perception, all women are beautiful in their own way).

Don't let it get to you, she's got issues too and is no better than anyone else.

If you are in school (or a church), is there a chorus/opportunity to take lessons?
If not, is there a group in your community that gets together to sing? (try looking on line; I know that there is a group near where I live called 'songweavers' who get together to do just that)----and certainly sing, don't worry about sis, she would hardly be your most objective critic...
You play an instrument...another informal venue, if there are some near you, are "open mics" where those who play and sing get together, take turns, or play together...
Friends who also play an instrument/sing could be gathered together in someone's place weekly & you could all practice in a relaxed, non-judgmental atmosphere...

You should get singing lessons to build your confidence, don't worry about your sister she'll be jealous when she hears how good you get!! Stay positive and use your music talents to help you make the most out of singing, whether it takes you somewhere or is just for fun!

Singing (even when done badly, which describes me) is good for the soul.

Ok, this is more than you ever wanted to know, but here goes.

I have your problem, except that I was bullied for my lack of musical ear when I was a child. The main bully was my mom's elder sister, a professor of musicology. I thought that I was tone deaf. I was embarrassed beyond belief. I would not sing along around camp fire for fear of being ridiculed.

But I love music. And rhythmical poetry, too. So, decades later, I have decided to do something about it.

1. Harvard University has an online tool that determines your pitch. Mine is in the 20th-30th percentile, better when I used headphones. Now, that is low, but not completely tone deaf
I talked to the director emeritus of my local music school. Told him the story. He asked me to sing (while talking on the phone with him). He told me that I was not hopeless. As an assignment, he told me to sing along in the car while listening to three songs that I have known since childhood. Do that for a month. If there is progress, take voice lessons and aural training lessons. I made progress, but cannot afford lessons now. One day I will.

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First, before even reading the other responses, I have to tell you that if your sister is all those "more" things, but is ACTUALLY pointing out all your flaws, that in itself is a character flaw in her that basically cancels everything out, so don't be jelly
On the other hand, are you sure she's really pointing them out, or does all the greatness you see in her make you insecure so that YOU compare yourself and are critical of what you perceive to be your "shortcomings"?
Sounds like you live at home, so do you drive yet? Driving in the car alone, especially on an easy road without a lot of traffic, is the BEST way to try out singing with NO fear of criticism. If you're not driving yet, maybe you could talk to your band director about getting involved in choir or chorus (don't ask what's the difference because I don't know). I remember as a I'd, my cousin or sister and I would swing just as high as we could on the swing set and sing right out loud, because the squeaking of the swing set and the sound distortion of swinging was distraction enough to take away the fear. Another great way to sing your heart out without fear of being heard (and win brownie points with mom and dad) is to sing while you mow the lawn. Just some suggestions...

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I agree. Being in chorus will help you get better and show you just how good you really are without a jealous sister trying to keep you down.


It might be, but when I sing it's bad for everyone else's souls ... and ears ... and pets ... and ...