[Onward2wards]

It's taken me a long time to wrap my head around this, but I'm ready to admit I have the following issues and I am trying to fix them:

* I rarely give myself credit for effort
* Most of my self-talk is very critical
* I tend to give up too easily due to pessimistic thinking
* My assertiveness skills are a lot weaker than I thought
* I do have social anxiety and it affects things a lot more than I thought
* I spend way too much time worrying needlessly instead of facing my fears
* All these issues have been around for a long time and some of them have worsened a little
* I accept that I am in fact med resistant and so other treatments have to logically take precedence
* Talk therapy and mindfulness DO work, I have not been consistent enough in applying them

I'm doing the best I know how. It's been a difficult few months with this stuff really sinking in.

Originally Posted by Onward2wards

It's taken me a long time to wrap my head around this, but I'm ready to admit I have the following issues and I am trying to fix them:

* I rarely give myself credit for effort
* Most of my self-talk is very critical
* I tend to give up too easily due to pessimistic thinking
* My assertiveness skills are a lot weaker than I thought
* I do have social anxiety and it affects things a lot more than I thought
* I spend way too much time worrying needlessly instead of facing my fears
* All these issues have been around for a long time and some of them have worsened a little
* I accept that I am in fact med resistant and so other treatments have to logically take precedence
* Talk therapy and mindfulness DO work, I have not been consistent enough in applying them

I'm doing the best I know how. It's been a difficult few months with this stuff really sinking in.

Hello Onward2wards: Being able to admit your limitations to yourself is a big step forward. It took me many decades to get to this point. Good luck developing successful strategies for overcoming these limitations. Keep us posted on your progress!

[Little Lulu]

That is great Onward2wards. What is the saying - 'Knowledge is power'? I am curious ... do you have a next step planned as to how you are going to work on these issues? If you med resistant, then obviously you are going to use other therapies. I would be interested in knowing your approach, if you have some ideas in mind.

[Onward2wards]

Right now (literally) I'm using cognitive behavioral therapy approaches, mindfulness, and being aware of when I'm avoiding things.

[Beachlover527]

You are like me. All those things you listed sound just like the problems I faced. I do have a therapist who taught me about mindfulness and breathing. Try out an app called Happier. There's a free yoga trial and it's really helped my anxiety so much.

Isn't it really hard to try and think positive thoughts about life and yourself when you've been basically thinking so negativity for so long? It's a big struggle for me to stop being so down about myself. Recently whenever I have thoughts that limit me or negative thoughts, I just catch myself and think "These are just thoughts. They are not true." And it helps me get out of that mental jail cell that I seem to lock myself into.
I wish you the best.

[mountain human]

Originally Posted by Onward2wards

It's taken me a long time to wrap my head around this, but I'm ready to admit I have the following issues and I am trying to fix them:

* I rarely give myself credit for effort
* Most of my self-talk is very critical
* I tend to give up too easily due to pessimistic thinking
* My assertiveness skills are a lot weaker than I thought
* I do have social anxiety and it affects things a lot more than I thought
* I spend way too much time worrying needlessly instead of facing my fears
* All these issues have been around for a long time and some of them have worsened a little
* I accept that I am in fact med resistant and so other treatments have to logically take precedence
* Talk therapy and mindfulness DO work, I have not been consistent enough in applying them

I'm doing the best I know how. It's been a difficult few months with this stuff really sinking in.

Wow, you told my story, too weird! Trying to diagnose myself has been trying, luckily I have an experienced therapist who is helping me.

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Came a long way to get here
Round and round in great big circles tryin' to ease my fear
Out in all the mysteries and distant new tomorrows
There goes another one, don't know which way the wind blows...