insecurities?!

so my (ex) boyfriend said we needed a break for a bit. he said he's sick of the ********. I tend to get a little insecure about stuff. he talks to other girls [like I talk to my guy friends] but for some reason, I always think the worst. we have been thru alot of stuff with the past year [with nonsense drama from other people, etc] & any other guy would've left. but he's still here. he still says he wants to be with me & he still loves me. we talked about marriage and moving in as well. so why do I feel so insecure?? and is there anyway I could try to stop it?

you need to counteract those insecurities with those positive messages you know about him. every insecure thought that comes up, you hit it with the evidence that he loves you and has never done those things. keep a written list with you at all times and read it over and over if needed. most of all, resist the urge to attack him about it. distract yourself with other things whenever the urge arises.

you're right. I will make that list tonight. he's actually coming down to talk tomorrow so hopefully something happens. thank you for the advice

well, he was supposed to come down today, but instead he drove 45mins [that's how far he lives], to come see me. he was working and said he kept thinking of me. and that he misses me. he had given me a promise ring a while ago, but brought it back last night and gave it back. but I'm still working on myself and this insecurity

You can try thinking the worst ad nauseam - after awhile you might become so bored with and tired of those thoughts that they will stop coming to your mind.

I hope so. it's getting better now, im filling up my head with more positive thoughts

Don't worry, as u get older u get wiser. The only insecurity I have left is I think my penis is too small. I want a huge foot long 3 inch thick piece of junk. Nothing else matters