[UCLAFan]

I'm not the girly girl type and my family is on my case about it. I'd rather attend sporting events than go to the mall. I don't care about clothes and make up.My older sister use to be a beauty queen and my mom would always compare me to her. My sister might have had the looks. But has a nasty attitude still and now is ugly on the outside to like she is on the inside.I think i'm a decent person and that should count more than looks.At times i think about changing my looks to please them. But i'm happy wearing jeans and a baseball shirt.

[Wants2Fly]

Hi Again UCLA --

It's hard when a family can't accept us the way we are. Even when we break away from unsupportive family, they live on in our heads.

I'm sorry to hear that you're having such a rough time.

[Benjamin]

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But i'm happy wearing jeans and a baseball shirt.

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I've always found that look to be kind of sexy. Guess I like the natural look better than a woman loaded up with makeup and jewelry.

Hey UCLA! Welcome to the tom boy club LOL! I use to think that "Pretty" girls were real women? Nah I know a real woman is a woman in her heart not on her shoulders!

Be proud of who you are!

hey sweetie you are you and don't you change for the world. as long as you're happy and thriving tht's the only thing that matters. don't be hurt when your mum compares you, that happened to me a lot but jut let it run off like water off a ducks back.
you sound like a lovely lovley person, go girl and enjoy your life. like you say it's what is on the inside that counts and matters.

lots of love jinnyann xoxoxoxog

[Perna]

Hang in there. My stepsister is 13 years older than I am, was a sorority sister, married out of college, had 4 beautiful children, whole nine yards. My stepmother was on my case too as I don't care for makeup, get my hair "styled" (went to the barber shop with my husband last time :-) once every year or two whether it needs it or not :-) etcetera. I live in jeans also and am 56.

You're allowed to have your own preferences. It's unfortunate your family is on your case and you feel you have to change occasionally to get them off it and get a rest from it for a bit :-) I think it will get better for you when you're more off on your own. I didn't fit in with the other girls either, carried my school books like a "boy" (by my side instead of in front of my chest) and other things.

[January]

Hi,

I used to be a tomboy, too. My mother despaired of ever seeing me in a dress outside of church. I lettered in track, volleyball and basketball and loved every second of it. I loved to hike and the forest was my safe haven.

Eventually though, I took more of an interest in my appearance and slowly adapted to wearing makeup and nice suits and dresses.

Now I wear jeans year round except in summer. I get so hot I wear skirts, whiter than white legs and all! lol!

Be yourself. Everything will fall in place.

Jan

[desperado]

UCLAFan, you sound as though you have a good head on your shoulders. Be whomever you want to be and hold your head up high.

The older we get, people's inner beauty becomes more & more attractive, anyway. That's what truly matters.

Try not to compare yourself to your sister.......I know that is quite challenging, but it is the worst thing you can do.

P.S. Sports ROCK!!!!

[Wants2Fly]

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UCLAFan, you sound as though you have a good head on your shoulders. Be whomever you want to be and hold your head up high.

Try not to compare yourself to your sister.......I know that is quite challenging, but it is the worst thing you can do.

P.S. Sports ROCK!!!!

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Check in again and let us know how it's going, okay?

[Fuzzybear]

[UCLAFan]

going same as usal. But going on vacation to see my Step Mom. She is more supportive of me then my real mom.I feel weird and uncomfortable when i dress up. I feel more myself just being really casual.

[desperado]

Have a great vacay, UCLA.......and try to let go of what everyone else thinks........just please YOURSELF! (As long as you don't intentionally hurt anyone.......I think you know what I mean).

Des

[January]

UCLA,

I had a t shirt from my church. I didn't realize how much I wore it all the time until my friends could tell me the initials on the front of it without looking at it! lol!!

When you get out of school you may have a working environment that forces you to change your style of dressing and you'll be fine. You might change on your own and create a combination look all your own.

In the meantime, enjoy being you. After all, there is only one you in the entire world!

Hugs,

Jan

[heartspace]

Sounds to me like it's your family who has the problem UCLA fan. Be yourself and proud of it.

hey, i'm 63 and i wear jeans and tee shirts all of the time........and i can tell you every unnecessary bit of trivia about the NBA that you don't want to hear!!! and a little bit about the NFL...... a neighbor once said to me "you sure know a lot about basketball for a woman">>>>>>> and one day my dog ran up and bit him in the ***.......she was a female........ so, you just be yourself and everything else will take care of itself..........xoxoxo pat