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Oct 22, 2005, 08:16 PM
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My friend told me to tell my bf how I've been feeling towards the opposite sex...well, I finally did...he didn't take it too well. I asked him if he hated me and he didn't even answer the question...then he said he was too tired to think about it. I know he's just avoiding the situation. I'm not gonna DO anything to jeopardize our relationship, even though I'm gonna be unhappy for awhile. But, the fact of the matter is that I hurt him by telling him this. I hope we can just get past this.
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Oct 22, 2005, 09:20 PM
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Hi Lex,
I don't think he hates you. I think he may be hurting. Ouch. Let him feel his pain. Right now, it can't be about you. You got to let him have his pain, too. I don't mean to sound mean with that-it's just that I can imagine it's hard for him to comfort and reassure you when he's just had the wind knocked out of himself from you.  You need to be compassionate for his feelings right now. ((((((((Lex)))))))))) |
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Oct 23, 2005, 07:48 PM
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Hey hun... from experience, my ex b.f. would be very upset if I asked him if he hated me. He would get the same way, just stop talking and get a very sad look on his face. He told me that it hurt him to hear me ask if he hated me because he felt like he wasn't doing enough to make me happy and I was doubting his love. I hope that helps
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Oct 23, 2005, 09:13 PM
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Oh, man. My dad does this same kind of thing to me all the time. 2 thoughts on this, from the other side of the fence:
1) when my dad asks me if I hate him, I resent it because it looks like he is fishing for compliments. His insecurity is a turnoff 2) if I don't reply, he assumes it's a "yes". Nothing is more maddening than people putting words in my mouth. If your boyfriend didn't explicitly say "yes, I hate you", then it is a bad idea to assume that he does. It will drive him away, IMO. Good luck with that Lexicon -- hope the receiving end's perspective is helpful!
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Oct 23, 2005, 09:31 PM
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I second that LMo! That's why my b/f left me, I questioned his love too much.
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Oct 23, 2005, 09:35 PM
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Spazkatt...
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