[SublimeChopin]

Hey guys. So as the title says I'm just a common fat chick with self esteem problems who goes through periods of depression. I'm trying to seek more information on dealing with self esteem issues because in a couple of weeks I will be starting university. I don't want to be moody and depressed around new people because I don't exactly fit the typical body mold. I'm not one of those people who believes being fat is totally bad but it does come with obstacles like mental health. I have become totally obsessed with my weight and believe its the reason for all my problems. "I don't have friends because my weight" "Never dated because of weight" "Don't like going to social events because of weight" "Low self worth because of my weight" and so forth.

So question any happy fat people on here? And how do I move past my self hate and start loving myself whether I am fat or thin?

Hi SublimeChopin,
So, here's the thing. I'm fat. Or, curvy, as I really like to say. And I'm happier and more secure with myself now, than when I was super skinny. Oh, there's DEFINITELY room for improvement and growth on my part. But yeah. Just thought I'd throw that concept out there about myself. While I do want to change my body and lose weight, I also embrace my curves. How did I learn to do that? I don't have an exact answer, only speculation. I have read and seen a lot online about embracing oneself just as you are. This is a good website and blog (she also has a Facebook page): Rachel W. Cole . I hope this finds you inspired. It has helped me, and led me to other good online people and information.

I just googled "body positive" and came up with a whole bunch of stuff, too. Love the skin you're in: 9 uplifting body-positive blogs

Changing ones mindset doesn't happen over night. And it is work. But it can happen! Be patient, and be open. I'm glad you posted here.

Have a good night.