Hi,

I have a really hard time accepting any physical deviation from what I deem 'perfect'.. I really hate this about myself

I actually think that a bowel disorder I've been dealing with for years now is forcing me to learn that I'm NOT perfect and that I'm OK like that! Can someone validate this for me? I feel I need to hear it from someone else, too..

Okay not.dead.yet, you may not be perfect but you are good enough as you are.

It's our imperfections which make us human and therefore loveable.

Thank you, prefabsprout

I think this goes back to my dad who was really distant both emotionally and physically.. I can't remember him ever hugging me. It was always like he just wanted to get away from me. I think his absence is why I've always felt different. Defective, like I'm something really disgusting and slimy.. My self-esteem never got to develop in that area.

I think I need to get to know myself now, on my own.. It's going to be harder without a 'mirror', but I'm going to do it, somehow.. I need to realise I'm a good person, no matter what my dad did or didn't do

[htoun]

I think we all need to realise that. Depending on your dads age it could be a generation thing. Also some people are just horrible at the touchy feely emotion stuff, it has nothing to do with you.

My dad sucks at saying anything positive. He is not shy about the negative. Yes it bugs me but he isn't going to change so I live with it.

You are okay the way you are. We all diminish with age, it is accepting it that helps us enjoy the ride... blessings

[Ceridwen18]

Perfection is an interesting concept. Do you think any human being can be perfect?