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#1
Sep 25, 2008, 11:21 PM
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whoever lied to me and said college was gonna be great deserves a hard *** wooping, College sucks.
My AvPD symptoms prevent me from doing alot of things such a. making friends. I feel like everyone has already made their friends and Im not good enough to be one of them. I feel soo rediculous all the time. One day i carried 5 big books in my hands from 8am-12pm because i felt stupid wearing my backpack. its rediculous. my teammates and my coach (im on the tennis team) noticed my excessive worrying...but im worrying they dont like me or i did something wrong or...if they're mad at me. and ugh it drives me insane because its a distorted perception...and i am FULLY aware of that and yet i cant help the way i feel. My coach and i had a heart to heart and she recommended i go see the counselor (who i was already going to...but wanted to stop going because i think the counselor is dumb) but i agreed because she forced me to... I also do ALOT of apologising...in two days i said it at least 100 times. Even if i had no reason to apologise i would, just to cover my @$$ and make sure they wouldnt have a reason to hate me. anyways i started emailing my T and am on 5 week counselin program and ugh i feel like ive lost everyone so quickly.my mental stability is down the toilet. I have no support system besides my T, my coach and my counselor. I dont have the  to tell my parents what ive been going through. I dont want them to worry.
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Sep 26, 2008, 12:37 AM
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My college situation was similiar....few friends.....being told I needed to go to counseling...........distorted perceptions...I, too, didn't want to tell my parents, what I was going through.....the leaders of the campus group I joined, did tell my parents eventually....my parents had me transfer to a college of the same caliber, only 12 miles away from their house....some semesters I lived with my parents, some tried different dormitories, both good, and bad experiences, under the knowledge I could move back home whenever, I needed to...for summers, both high school and college friends were around...could you show your parents what you wrote here? Or confide in an Aunt or Uncle? Invite your parents to sit in at one of your sessions? You may feel rediculous and hated, yet here, at psychcentral, you are loved and understood
 What about joining a support group, that way, you would have others with the same problems to relate to...you can come through this, conquer it, and put it behind you- I did
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Sep 29, 2008, 01:39 PM
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Hi Sarah does the phrase personal boundaries get you thinking? Sounds like you might not have very healthy ones?
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Oct 01, 2008, 01:34 PM
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(((sarah kristine)))
that sounds like my typical school day as well - though of course it shouldn't be typical. if the counselor is not helping you, maybe you could try reading some self-help books? try ebay for some, i've gotten lots of good books from there. (off-topic: i see you know korean - that is very cool. i don't know what it says but i think i can distinguish korean from japanese  )hugs, twilight
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Oct 01, 2008, 01:57 PM
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Thank you guys for the wonderful replies. I was in a really bad place last week. I cut myself for the first time and then i realized that its not worth it...so i cut all my hair off and put on a new attitude and well life is really good right now.
and ya sannah, i need some personal boudaries, which ive been working on really really hard. and iamtwilight haha its says, "I love you" Korean is a pretty cool langiuage im trying my hardest to learn itt. and junearin i appreciate u sharing ur story with me. I am glad i have common ground with u and that u were comfrotable enought o share ur story with me thanks for everything guys take care, sarah
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당신의 사랑은 법률을 위반하고 있었다, 그러나 나는 증인을 필요로 했다 <3 |
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Oct 01, 2008, 02:43 PM
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Quote:
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Oct 02, 2008, 03:39 AM
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way to go sarah!!
 best of luck to you - also in your korean studies! (i know only a few words because i watched the serie buhwal - very good one, would recommend watching if you haven't seen it) twilight
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Oct 10, 2008, 02:06 AM
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Good for you, Sarah!
And if you find yourself sinking again, remember the good feeling you have now, and that you will get that good feeling back I promise!
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