The Self-Esteem Passport

CHOOSING TO RISK

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Choosing to risk strengthens your self-image. It shows that you have confidence in your judgement and are willing to overcome fear, boredom or complacency in order to bring about change. Dliberately taking a chance implies that your decision to pursue a certain course is rational, whether it's getting married or divorced, amoving to a new community or career, and that you're prepared to deal with either failure or success. If you succeed, you will enjoy a new vitality and sens of accomplishment. If you don't, the experience will strengthen your resolve to risk again because you've tested your courage and know you're able to go on. In this section, show how you have benefited from risks you have taken.

(Wants2 -- This one is yours! Right on!)

PLAYING TO WIN

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Playing to win can often make the difference between failure and success. It means going after a goal with persistence and the unwavering resolve to succeed. If your attempts to become a winner have resulted in repeated setbacks, it's time to examine your strategies. Are your objectives reasonable? Could you be standing in your own way without even knowing it? (Like Dr. Phil would say "Is what you're doing working for you?") Get in touch with your inner self. Are you unconsciously choosing to fail, or remain an underachiever, because you fear that positive changes will require living up to greater expectations? You can become a winner, which is far more rewarding that going through life as a loser, if you deal with your self-defeating patterns.

In this section, list examples of how you "snatched defeat from the jaws of victory," and indicate how you can avoid similar results in the future.

POWER OF FAILURE

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Failure is a teacher and can be the source of much personal growth. Experiencing failure, and learning to judge your own capabilities, demonstrates that you have the strength to accept life's challenges. Never condemn yourself for not succeeding. That's being unfair to yourself. See failure for what it is; an opportunity to discover that future success lies in another strategy or direction. You will achieve your next goal if you learn from your past mistakes. In this section, show how some of your past failures could lead to new achievements.

Funny Moment:

I was at a huge party... Down the shore. I was young and I was nervous because there were a lot of older good looking guys there. And I had to walk out to the back yard where all the people were hanging out. So I got myself together and walked through the kitchen and was going to walk out the door and onto the deck. Only one problem...I didn't see the screen door. Yup..whack walked right into it..knocked it right off the track...lol talk about an entrance.

Courage: I can list 2 here.

When I was around 11...I was with a few younger kids around 6 in the evening...sun was just beginning to go down. People already left the beach mostly. We were watching this helicopter flying very low and irratically over the ocean when it suddenly went down and exploded about 40ft from the surf.

I yelled to the girls to go to my house and tell them b/c my brother in law was a state trooper. Went right in the ocean and began to pull a girl in. By the time I got to her ...People (including my brother in law) were already there. Nobody survived this crash unfortunately, but at 11 I think that took guts to do?

2 summers ago I was at the pool. Wasn't feeling well. Was withdrawn and depressed. Blaring music on my headset. Watching my son at the pool. ( I would NEVER) leave my son at the pool alone btw). Well my sister and (other brother in law) went in the house leaving their 2year old (without telling anyone)
by the pool.

In the corner of my eye I can see her strolling by the pool. Now I'm about 20 or 30 feet from her...fully dressed. I'm also not so physically limber...lol or so I thought. I just was about to say. "Gabriella don't go so". (close didn't get out) ...and she fell in. Well let me tell you...I never knew I could move so fast. I jumped in the pool and got her out so fast.

You would have thought I was wonder woman.

lol.

Failures are many.

I dropped out of college.
My marriage
I know i told kimmy giving my son to my mom, but I also feel I regret it too...lol yes there is conflict there, but I feel i made a consious desicion to "give up"

Whereas my mom says "i was sick" So I dunno.

Um...I just feel like a complete failure. period.

Sorry for the poor typing.

You really can't fail if you try, nice part of this is you got friends to help ya through the tough parts
Angie

GIVING UP RESENTMENTS

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Relinquish your resentments, they're only unhappy memories of past experiences that once crossed your life. It doesn't matter who was to blame. Letting go of your disappointments releases you from the mental imprisonment of reliving yesterday's troubles. You're also rid of the all-consuming need to exact revenge. Your self-esteem is automatically increased because you no longer view yourself as a tragic unfortunate who was wronged, and forever a victim of that unpleasant situation. By being forgiving, both to yourself and others responsible for the hurtful incident, you automatically eliminate your mind's existing inventory of trouble-provoking grudges and bad memories. Freeing yourself from resentments creates a brand-new blueprint for present day happiness and a chance to go for the gold! In this section, describe how resentments have trapped you in the past and why that won't happen again.

BEING YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND

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You have a friend for life - YOURSELF! Friendships provide comfort and strength and must be nourished with gentle deeds and loving actions. In fact, being your own best friend and having a strong self-esteem are synonymous. In this section, list the steps you have taken to become your own best friend.

You know? I'm seriously wondering if my time and efforts are worth it...

Yes they are worth it, I'm back full force been having some rough days but I'm backkkkkkkkkkkk
Angie