[SpazKatt]

So my ex said I was sexy the otherday... I need to learn to accept these compliments.

[SeptemberMorn]

Yes you do! WOW! Good for you! Look at yourself in a full length mirror and repeat to yourself: "I'm sexy! I'm sexy! I'm sexy! WOW!" Keep doing it until you believe it.

[Isolated_Guy]

She shouldn't have to tell herself that.

How can she not believe it in the first place?

[SeptemberMorn]

You don't believe us when we tell you are not ugly! You can answer that question yourself, Iggy.

[nothemama8]

If we tell ourselves what others say we might just start to accept it, and not reject the wisdom of others
Marie

[Isolated_Guy]

Tomi, I don't want to be accused of stealing SpazKatt's thread, so I'll address your reply as briefly as possible.

I'm 43. Never had a girlfriend, a kiss, or even a date and it's not for lack of trying either. Not one woman has ever shown interest, not one.

That's the definition of ugly, plain and simple.

SpazKatt, on the other hand, is pretty.

That's not a matter of opinion or "eye of the beholder" stuff.

She is decades younger than me and has already had relationships. She has the proof that she can attract someone.

SpazKatt, I still can't believe you question your appearance. There's no possible reason why you should.

[nothemama8]

We all see ourselves diffrently , yes Spaz is very beautiful, I have never seen Sept, but in my eyes she is also beautiful , maybe I am ugly but I have a beautiful side also, one just has to believe in themselves
Marie

[SeptemberMorn]

Check the thread I made especially for you for the answer, Iggy.

[vacantangel]

WOW, that's awesome Spaz. I'm sure that must've made you feel great inside.

[SpazKatt]

Thanks guys... I mean, sometimes I know I'm pretty... but there are days where I look in the mirror and go DANG I'm UGLY today. I have a huge bump in my nose, and nasty moles that I don't like. I think it's kind of like an eatting dissorder...you can't see the true beauty cuz the thigns that bother you tend to seem HUGE and out of proportion than they really are. I've struggled with wanting a nose job for a while, I've seen the shows on how horrible they are but I think.. maybe it's really worth it. And I'm hoping to get my moles removed sooon does insurance cover that.. like if I think they COULD be cancerous?

[SeptemberMorn]

If you ask me, MY nose is ugly, but hey, that's what God gave me. If your nose and moles bother you, go for it! The Dr would be the one to determine if they could be cancerous or not. It's worth a try! I don't think that will improve your self-esteem, though. But if it makes you feel better about your appearance, I say go for it! (again) hehehe

[SpazKatt]

thanks