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May 30, 2009, 07:42 PM
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I am a 30 year old women, married for seven years with a five year old daughter. I was going through a rough time, after loosing my mother when I was 22. I was hanging around with a guy I should not have been with, in an area that was bad and I should not have been there. Anyways, A state Police officer came up to my car that was parked. We where on the side of the road. I had met him the guy I was with in a sober house I was at in 2006. I am a recovering addict. So this State Police officer comes over to the car. He used his cell phone to call in the kids name that I was with, and found out he had some warrents for serious stuff. I did not know this about him. The Police Officer, did not even call his State Police Barrecks that was two blocks away! He used his cell and called his dispatcher friend at another local police station. So after finding out this kid should have been in Jail. He gave him $5 to get on the train and leave. I assume the kid thought he was just going to go back to my car, and tell me to go home as well. The kid having warrents Probably just wanted to get out of there anyway. Neither of us though what happend would have ever happened. The Police officer got in my car. He told me I was with a criminal, and he did me a favor for getting rid of him. I told him I did not know he had a record. Now at this point he was sitting in my car! I knew something was not right. He told me I had to thank him for what he had did. He obviously figured that if I knew a kid like this, I had a past myself. What he did not count on is that my past was not as bad as he thought. Not as bad as his other usual victims. My daughters car seat was in the back. As he looked at the car sear he said" listen I know you have a family and I can make things real bad for them and your friends. As he was purposly stairing at my daughters carseat. I told him I was married, and I did not know what he wanted me to do. He told me that it did not seem to bother me a little while ago, that I was married, being on the side of a dark road with another man. I tried to explain to him, we where in recovery together. However it was more, than that. It was obvious. He then pulled out a bag of white powder, he told me I could go to jail for a long time for having that. Then he put it away. I asummed it was cocaine. I did not ask. I tried to talk my way out of it. I even told him I have a friend that would do something for him. He said that was not going to work. I did not know what to say. I always thought if I was ever going to get rapped. I had all these things I would do or say. Like lie and say I had aids or some disease. Those things do not cross your mind when it is happening. I could not belive this was happening. He told me to follow him about the length of four houses, to this building. It was a one way street. There was no getting around him, and if I tried he would have just pulled me over, and arrested me for what looked like a lot of drugs. I have never been to jail, and did not want to go there. Where I am from, if I had screamed, no one would have done anything, No one wants to get involved with the police. I hate to say it, but before this happened to me, If I was to see a girl screaming, while getting arrested. I probalbly would have thought she was just drunk or trying to get out of it. There was no one around anyway. I reluctenly went in to the building. I was crying by this time. The rest is real graphic. That some would might not want to hear. So he is a 42 married man with three small children. I told my Husbad and Father right when I got home. I went to my local police, but they told me I had to report it to the city it happened in. We did not know what to do, Who do you call when your rappist is the people or person who are supposed to protect you. My husband had a friend that way a lawyer, It turned out that lawyer was friends with the Distract attorney in that distrect. Finally they got a warrent. I could never had known the things I knew, If it did not happen. At this time, a lot of people did not believe me. I mean other than friends and family my family believed me of course. Other people might not have in part because of my past addiction issues, and the police are always right. So people think. Well that night, the last thing he said to me was" are we on the same page? No one will ever no about this" I agreed, I just wanted to get out of there. So to turn a long horrible story a little shorter. It turned out, as I already knew he had other victims. A women had called in 30 days before what happened to me. The police said they tried to find her but she was homeless. Well when my case went to trial, it took the Distrect Attorney 20 MINUTES to find this women! She had a bad past, and was not even allowed to be a witness, in my case, I guess if you have made some bad choices, this ex officer thought he could do as he pleased to you. He slapped her around, because she physicallly fought him as he was trying to force her to give oral sex to him. I always wished I fought more. I blamed my self for being there, being with that man. Which I told my husband about. He stood by me, but he was devistated. The Officer got 8-10 years in prison. He got offered a deal of 3-5, becasue no one thought we could win. He laughed. He actually yawned through the trial, looked at his watch. and when the jury left the court room, him and his idot attorney's laughed! The three of them looked like the three stooges. Anyway, I am scared about what he wil do to me when he gets out. I talked to one of the administrators of this site. She told me she thought this would be a good place to tell my story. It just helps to get it out some times. I am always looking for some one to chat about whatever. I have dealt with depression since high school, It has got worse over the years. Now after that, I have PTSD. I hope I did not freak any body out. I have went to therapy and am dealing with it. So if anyone wants to chat, write me sometime. Thanks for listening. Jillian
Last edited by Christina86; May 31, 2009 at 01:56 AM. Reason: added trigger icon |
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May 30, 2009, 08:13 PM
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 ((((((Jillian)))))) That officer sounds like one disgusting pig. Even if it was not the best choice ever to be on the road with some other guy, it still doesn't put you at fault. It never will. Heck, if I were you I probably would have done the same thing, you were just trying to keep yourself safe because who knows what could have happened otherwise? This guy deserves to be locked up for acting like such a slimy animal in my opinion. |
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May 31, 2009, 01:58 AM
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((((((((((((Jillian)))))))))))))))))
Said it before, and I'll say it again - NOT YOUR FAULT. I'm glad that he's at least paying for what he did a bit - because that is what that kind of person deserves. I'm sorry you've suffered as a result. 
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May 31, 2009, 06:39 AM
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it was not your fault, remember he was found guilty so he now has a record, if he comes near you make a note of it and report it, keep records of stuff if he continues to try to intimindate you, he gave police officers a bad name hopefully some of them can not tolerate the way he behaved and will look out for you if he tries anything, keep safe and dont blame your self
and welcome to pc
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May 31, 2009, 02:10 PM
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From what I've heard ,
Police officers are not very welcome in prison. I'm truely am soory you ran into this swine, Im so glad you got your day in court and you won.  I do understand your fear . Its why victiums do not follow through and report . I think looking into witness or victium protection would be very good. or relocation . or asking how to deal with this to protect yourself,. By now he will never be able to work as a law officer again. times a thousand.......Patricia |
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May 31, 2009, 02:52 PM
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Jilly,
sometimes victiums can show up at an a perps peroll hearing and state thier comcerns for themselves and other safety . Quote:
never to be known. Three years is not enough for what this officer did t you and others . no telling how many victums there have been . almost wants to make me think you should get your story out in a major way. Patrica |
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Jun 01, 2009, 08:48 AM
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Jillian, you are a very strong woman to continue the effort until this criminal got what he deserved. Good Work! You probably saved a lot of other woman from getting raped. I'm sorry that this had to happen to you.
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Jun 02, 2009, 07:29 AM
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Jillian, you're incredibly strong and brave to have gone through the court trial and other such things. I'm so sorry that this had to happen to you.... I know how scary it can be.
3 years is in no way long enough for this sick and twisted... Animal. I hope he gets sent down for longer. I hope you can begin to feel safer and find ways to make sure that you are safe from this nasty pig. Take care of you today if safe
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