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Mar 25, 2010, 12:43 PM
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On Valentine's Day, I broke up my affair with Lia.
for a couple of reasons. 1) She totally messed up my 12 step friend to the point of incapacitation. 2) She never understood the scope of sexual abuse. Thought all I had was a "bad attitude about sex" and "maladjusted". 3) She is a perpetrator---meaning she supports and validates perpetrator behavior. Ani told me the other day. She claims that there is "no such thing as sexual abuse" and that "incest is legal in some societies". so I totally broke up with her and now have NOTHING AT ALL to do with her! Billi 
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Mar 25, 2010, 12:48 PM
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I'm glad that you did what is best for you! How are you doing now that you made this decision?
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Mar 26, 2010, 09:07 PM
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some sick part of me will always miss her.
I hope she is the LAST person who betrays my trust. I did have a bad feeling about her. I am glad she is gone. Billi
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Mar 26, 2010, 09:22 PM
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Mar 26, 2010, 09:25 PM
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It's actually kind of a normal thing to miss something, even if it hurt you. I'd rather MISS - than be with |
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#6
Mar 27, 2010, 02:16 AM
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You did the right thing, and remember there is a lesson here - always trust your gut especially concerning matters of the heart. You just turned your back on distruction. I think there is a small community where canibalism is legal...doesn't make it healthy or a positive thing. May you find a loving, positive partner when you are ready.
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Mar 27, 2010, 01:18 PM
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thank you.
My blood boils when I think of her. I get angrier at women abusers, too. See "abused by a woman" for more info on my issues, if you want.  Billi
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