[wi_fighter]

I can't really even put it into words.

It's wanting to scream and kick and punch and rip something apart and have someone who can do something about all this crappy injustice actually DO SOMETHING NOW.

My daughter doesn't want to go back there. Hell, they aren't even going to see their dad tomorrow. He's going to be partying at a wedding while the kids are made to stay at home. And then the 20-y/o developmentally disabled son of the wedding couple is going to be at the house, and he's already touched my 14-y/o daughter in ways that makes her uncomfortable. But if she or I say anything to her dad, we'll be blowing things out of proportion or lying completely.

I want my kids to feel safe and comfortable, not accused of lying and bringing on their own problems. I want them to feel nurtured even when things aren't perfect. I want them to be protected, but because there isn't any physical proof, everyone is dragging their feet.

[Gemstone]

(((((((wi))))))))) I'm sorry things are so hard.

Of course you want your kids to be safe!

[kimmydawn]

((((((((((((((((((wi)))))))))))))))))))

i'm sooooooo sorry. is your daughter old enough in the court's eyes to say that she doesn't want to go?

this is horrible.

kd

[wi_fighter]

Thanks Gem. ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))

Thanks KD (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))) The court in WI does the whole "best interest of the kids" thing based on about a dozen items. They listen to everyone involved and then decide where the kids should be. It's not like when my parents divorced 30 years ago and I just went with my mom.

My lawyer said I or he could contact the GAL and tell her my daughter doesn't want to go, but when I met him in person the next day he didn't elaborate and we were talking about other things and I forgot to bring it up.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((( wi ))))))))))))

[wi_fighter]

Thanks Fuzzy.

I'm so frustrated. My daughter refused to go with her dad this week. I supported her decision and told him I refused to force her to do something she didn't want. The ex and his g/f are sarcastic to her, accusing her of starting every disagreement. They can't be adults and take ANY responsibility for the tension in the house.

I'd gotten two accusatory e-mails from him in the span of several hours, even going so far as to accuse me of bringing on my daughter's growth problem because I'd had her treated for ADD and telling me I've been hiding all of her medical care from him for the last 14 years.

She hasn't lived with her dad at all this last month. I've had to support her 100% on my own. He hasn't contributed AT ALL beyond buying about $20 worth of cheap school supplies (the folders and notebooks that need replacing within a couple of weeks because they're so flimsy). I'm pissed beyond belief.

I have to increase her diet and it's taken all but $18 of my weekly budget so far. I have 5 days to stretch that $18 and have an empty gas tank and her school lunch account needs to be topped up, and she wants to go try on a $99 dress TODAY for Homecoming that she hasn't even been invited to yet.

I know my problems are miniscule compared to just about everyone else's, so why am I even *****ing?

And my INDOOR cat is howling nonstop to go outside so I can't even hear the doctor's dictation so I can earn money.

I just want to cry. I want someone to come to MY god damned rescue for once.

[Fuzzybear]

Don't know about anyone else, but I don't believe in comparing people's problems or value of same.

Healing thoughts,
Fuzzy

[wi_fighter]

I have NO coping skills for any of this. Maybe I need to start hacking up my body or drinking myself into oblivion, lose my job, and THEN I can get some %#@&#! support from the damned government.

I might as well become the screwed up, incompetent, lazy, money grubbing, unsafe, insane, caregiver that my ex thinks I am.

[wi_fighter]

Oh yeah, and I've been off Celexa for the last 3 days because of the holiday weekend and not being able to afford the $28 to refill the prescription.

[Fuzzybear]

heh you would get a busload of labels from the "professionals" as well

GGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR at the ex

Safe hugs,
Fuzzy

[wisewoman]

Just another thought. I had digestive issues cause of an antibiotic and my doc got me samples of my meds as I ran out to early, taking the stomach meds. Then she gave me sinus drugs and the new antibiotic. Checl with your doc for free drugs from drug comapanies.