[daffadil]

My mother called me to let me know that the man that molested my step-sister called my step sister and flipped out about me writing that letter to his wife to be. Now my sister is absolutly furious with me. she says she will not step foot in the same house as me. Therefore, there will be no thanksgiving this year or christmas and probably for many years, according to my mom, because my parents won't invite one of us and not the other, and they will not have two holidays. (one for each of us) I knew my sister would be upset, but I thought she might see the greater good. I guess I was wrong. It still really upsets me that she (my sister) doesn't think the wife to be has a right to know. She has many problems to this day because of the abuse, and I can't understand why she would want that for any other child. I do not regret anything I did, and would do it again in a heartbeat. I'm just dissapointed in the way it turned out. Now I'm the one feeling like I've lost something.

[Rapunzel]

Daffadil,

That is really too bad that it turned out that way. Maybe your parents and sister will come around. I understand your sister being upset, even though you did the right thing, just because it would be a difficult issue for her. I think your parents are wrong to cancel the holidays. That really is too bad. They could invite both of you and if one or both choose not to attend, that is a matter if individual choice. Cutting everybody off and ending communication won't solve any problems. I'm sure that it would be uncomfortable for you two sisters to get together, at least at first, and trying to work it out at least to where you can both participate in family activities before the holidays might be a good idea. They might not listen to your input on the matter but if your parents will hear your ideas maybe you can talk to them about what should happen.

You know how you would have felt if you didn't say anything and those children had been abused, and now you know that you have done what you could. Maybe good will come of it yet - maybe the mother will be more observant than she would have been, and maybe your sister will wind up dealing with her problems as a result of all this.

I'm sorry that people are treating you the way they are.

<font color=purple>"The real problem of mental life is not why some people become insane, but rather why most avoid insanity." -Erich Fromm</font color=purple>