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Old Oct 25, 2010, 05:14 PM
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Whats your opinion on the term "sexual template?" Why is there so little information on the internet about what that term means. I find it hard to believe if I find little information about it. MY therapist never fails to use it in every session with me and states what mine is all the time...how much credibility does a "sexual template" have to predict the future? comments appreciated! thanks.
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Old Oct 25, 2010, 06:06 PM
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as i understand it, jazzy, a sexual template is that idealized image of a partner that we get from a parent. it tints our choice of partners in ways that are , essentially, invisible to us. i for one, found that i always chose men like my father, no matter how different they seemed, they would eventually reveal a side very similar to the abusive side of my dad ~! when i realized this, i was deeply shocked, even tho the evidence was right in front of me for many yrs. i'm glad your therapist is trying to bring this to your attention, so you can hopefully break some very strong, albeit unconscious, self-defeating behaviors~~ (as i suppose her intention to be). best wishes,,, Gus
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Old Oct 26, 2010, 01:04 AM
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I have never heard about it. Can you ask your therapist to educate you on it?
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Old Oct 26, 2010, 03:42 PM
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I've never heard of it either

I've been with several therapists for a few years and no therapist has ever spoke of such.....

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distorted sexual template due to abuse?
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Old Oct 26, 2010, 09:17 PM
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hI THERE .... well my T says I have learned behaviors which dictate my choices, and I have no choice but to seek out wat I know. He does not use the same term, however I believe this is what you are referring to. We only know what we are taught and like it or not we will seek out the same, because we do not know any different. We have to relearn how to choose differently....how to make healthier choices, even in the people we pic out of the crowd....we need to pic a different mold of a person...(template ...mold) I think this makes sense ... to some degree I believe it because I know it as familiar, I can see the people of my past and recognize the pattern...i was thinking we may use one template for people to fit into, and when they are not the exact fit we pass them by, cont to search for our predestined template fit ...even if it is unhealthy
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Old Oct 26, 2010, 09:28 PM
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I have never heard about it. Can you ask your therapist to educate you on it?
She has... a little....that it is like a combination of your fetishes, your sexual desires...that you develop at a young age... what you find sexually pleasing..I just wanted to see/hear a second opinion because I don't really hear about it ever...seems like a term most ppl don't use and its not on the internet. made me skeptical..and I still am.
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Old Oct 26, 2010, 09:32 PM
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hI THERE .... well my T says I have learned behaviors which dictate my choices, and I have no choice but to seek out wat I know.
according to my T, your sexual template is what molds your sexuality....i think every person can dictate their own choices when they become an adult...but, I think they must first realize as my therapists puts it, what there "sexual template" is so they can make healthier choices and not repeat mistakes...without coming to this realization, you really can't change... i guess.
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