[SpazKatt]

I'm attempting to say something here but I don't know if I'm ready yet, I've never posted in this forum but I think it's time I stopped lying to myself so. I need some encoragement because I'm scared.

[SweetCrusader]

I'm here for you Katt, and it's ok to open up. You will be heard, and you will be safe.

*safe hugs*
Angela

It's ok to let it out. I'm always here for you.

[h0kie]

Do what feels comfortable. People will understand whatever you do/don't say. We'll wait until you're ready.

[Nerak]

Talk about it when you are comfortable, we are all here for you.

[kimmydawn]

katt, you can bring it out right here when you're ready. we'll be here waiting for you. it's hard to say or write things down sometimes because it makes it so much more real. (((((((((((((((((katt))))))))))))))))))

move at your own pace.

kd

[wisewoman]

Sometimes just giving it up to writing helps and letting it go. It's worth a try.

[DocClyde]

SpazKatt ,

Relate what you want only when you feel totally comfortable with it. I have a few friends that do not know things about me that are horrible, but then others do, and I really do not think less of those who do not know.

I just feel there is a time for things and people are included. If you do not feel comfortable, never force yourself. I hope you are finding peace and happiness tonight.

[Poppet]

Hey, Spazkatt, If you find you are not ready, please remember how brave you are just for posting what you did.
I believe that when you are ready and feel safe enough, things can come out.
It may be enough for you just to post here to let us know you are on the brink of saying something and to see the reaction.
When you step off the brink, we are here.
Remember that you are in control of how little / how much / whatever you say. Take your time.
Thinking of you at this big moment........can I offer a safe hug ?
((((((((((Spazkatt))))))))).........Poppet

[SpazKatt]

Thanks everyone for your support! well now my friend wants to tell my mom about this! I yelled and cried and said how upset I am that he would violate my trust like that. Considering I didn't even wanna tell him...he pryed it out of me.

an unsolicited observation:

he pryed it out of you?

You didn't want to tell him yet he pryed it out of you?? Your choice of language speaks loudly about how your are perceiving your life. Take the stance of survivor and talk the talk girlfriend! You CHOSE to tell a friend instead of the passive form of my friend PRYED it out of me. Look at who is in charge in the different phrasings.

The Spazzmo I know is someone who is on that learning path and has an open mind for change.....

gently,
--zh

[SpazKatt]

*scratches head*

[allthegirls6]

I think people can pry things out of you, often when you are at a low ebb and really need to talk. In my opinion its up to you who knows what about you and you should be able to control that. So tell your friend to Butt out and if anyone needs to know anything about you, thne you will do the telling.

Look after you first.

All the girls

[bipolar_bear]

When you are vulnerable and in need of someone to talk to sometimes we tell people things that we later regret. That is why this forum is so wonderful. Everyone is here for you and wants to listen.

I am sorry if your friend violated your trust in them. Sometimes people also do that in what they feel is helping you. Hopefully you can explain to your friend to respect your confiding in them.

Good luck and keep on posting as you feel comfortable.