[tifferific]

Hes hit me twice. Actually its the mental abuse i cant stand. Anger names anger always. I have three kids how do i get out of here safetly? Someone help me! I have a good job nice house.what do i do?

[lynn P.]

Sorry this is happening. Do you want to leave now? If he's home it's not good to leave when the abuser's home, unless you call the police. Otherwise you have to wait when he's not home. Where would you go? - to a women's shelter or do you have family?

[tifferific]

Hes home what would i take when hes gone? Why do i have to leave? I could go to a shelter. How long can you stay. Or family. I'm confused.

[lynn P.]

I don't know how urgent your situation is. Usually it's dangerous to leave when the abuser's home. If you can get him to leave then that's good. Do you want to be apart? I'm not aware how long people can stay at shelters.

[Sannah]

You can contact a shelter and they can help you make a plan. Please continue to keep us posted.

[tifferific]

I'm afraid to call a shelter. If social services gets involved will they say were not fit if i get to frightened to leave? I also dont want to leave my house my things. Hell find me anyway. I just hate me for being nothing. Everyone walks on me. I dont want to be here.

[miray]

(((tiff))) You ar Not nothing. When you are in an abusive relationship...especially a long one...they have continually beat you down. Not just physically...but emotionally. When you constantly hear how worthless you are and you can't do anything right...it is hard not to believe it after awhile. Let me tell you..that is not who you are. That is who he has tried to make you be. You have got to pull yourself out of it. You are strong and you can do it. I agree that you need to talk to shelters and get a plan in place. They don't involve social services. You can't keep letting him fear you into staying. I really am worried about you and hope you find the strenght I know is inside of you. Keep us posted

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by tifferific

Everyone walks on me.

Is therapy a possibility? Therapy will help you with this ^.

[DorindaP]

Make a plan. That will be your best tool when you are ready to go. Only tell ONE person your plan. Someone you trust someone who won't tell him. Fill out the proper paperwork so that you will have custody of your children. The Shelter should be able to help you with all of this. Good Luck. I'll have you in my prayers

[tifferific]

Thanks fear is keeping me trapped

[susan888]

If it happens again..call the police. They will make him leave (in the USA). You can also get a protective order so he is not allowed to come near you (again, in the USA). Bless you and your children. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I have a very dear friend at work that is going through the same thing...

Be safe,
Susan

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by tifferific

Thanks fear is keeping me trapped

I still do things even though I am afraid. I have found that still doing whatever I need to do even though I am afraid is the best way to work past the fear - Otherwise the fear just keeps hanging over you continuing to menace.